i keep thinking of him loads been apart for 2 weeks i no i love him , but i know this time we wont get back togther i jus wish he was mature like me , i keep finking of him being with another gal and thinking he should be with me , it hurts its it really going to be over between us for good ./ i just wish he would chat to me like b for but he wil make it worse bi datin sum 1 new then that makes him relasie it not me and wonts me back
2007-01-24 22:19:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
rebounding and dating someone else just to get back at him won't help you get over him; it'll only make you sadder.
the only way to get over a person is time, and to occupy yourself with other things....when you're ready to date again, go for it...you'll know you're officially over him when you're able to hear his name without your heart stopping....it might take a long time, but it'll happen, don't worry.
good luck!
2007-01-24 22:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by veggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when a relationship breaks up and you keep thinking about it, you just get totally stuck. There is something that can help you get "unstuck". Once you've done that you'll be able to think more clearly: This is a Scientology thing, and doesn't need "faith" or "belief" to make it work. If you do it, it works.
Get some paper and a pen.
Write this question at the top of the first sheet "Look around here and find something that doesn't remind you of (insert ex's name here)."
Then read the question to yourself and do it. Look around and find something that doesn't remind you of your ex.
This will most likely be very hard to start with (or, it might be easy to start with and then get hard, it'll get easier anyway).
When you find something, write down what it is.
Then do it again, and again, and keep doing it. This may take a while, and you might go through lots of different emotional stages, it can be draining. Keep going. You can take breaks (life happens), maybe do a little bit each day, whatever.
You will know when you've finished because your viewpoint will change, you might realise something, and you won't feel the same way about your ex.
Then you can get on with your life.
2007-01-25 03:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard and your friends will get you through it, as much as you dont want to go out make sure you do, if only for a couple of hours so you dont sit at home and dwell its wen your alone with your thoughts that it gets harder and more unbearable.
as the weeks go on you'll feel the pain start to ease a little but it will still hurt and will hurt for some time.
my point is that only time can heal, and having some fun along the way will really get your confidence back up again!
good luck x x
2007-01-24 23:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All your emotions sound perfectly normal for someone who is newly out of a relationship. By 3 months, if you really let go of getting back with him, you will have moved on enough to start feeling happy & interested in other guys again. This is only a rough guess as it is different for everyone. Stick with it you'll be fine & look back & probably laugh at your feelings for him. Set your future relationship standards now & stick by them & you'll learn to respect yourself alot more.
2007-01-24 22:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only normal to feel like you do now...but be strong. Whatever caused the break-up will only rear it's ugly head again if you were to get back together. Start going out with your girlfriends again...live a little, flirt a little, and soon all thoughts of him will be history.
2007-01-28 20:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luv there is only one thing that can hellp and that is time don''t worry time heals all wounds it may seem unbearable now but with time you will be suprised u felt this bad now.i know u wish it can just be over immeditely but there is just a proccess we all have to go thur it's just that for some peolpe it's faster and others longer .trust me you will soon be ok just take care
2007-01-24 22:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ask him if u can meet up with him to have a chat to find out where things went wrong then after that decide what u have to do.
2007-01-28 12:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try participating in other enjoyable activities.. go out with friends alot or engage yourself in new sports..
go out and have fun! :) you'll feel much better and might even meet a new guy..who knows? :)
good luck girl!!!
2007-01-24 22:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno really, depends on the type of relationship you had.
it's so hard when what u had was good.
but really do you really get over someone you loved truly! i dont think so. you can't recover 100%
2007-01-24 22:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by fate_n83 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you do.
2007-01-24 23:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋