I'm a successful businessman, I have a great sense of humor, I'm handsome, have a wonderful personality and have everything I have ever wanted, yet for everything I have, I live without love. I now realise that sometimes having everything is not enough. I just don't understand what is so wrong with me. What can I do to find love? doesn't everyone need someone to love them, just one person.
2007-01-24 21:58:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're looking for it in the wrong places
You're not really looking for it
You don't know what it is exactly you are looking for
You're not promoting your availability
You're not promoting yourself in a positive light
You're not all that you think you are
Your ego gets in the way
That's a selection of what could be wrong with you or preventing you from finding love.
Engage with people more.
Be attentive.
Listen to them
Visit the right places
Enrol in a dating agency/Singles club
Review Personals (online/in the Press)
Pursue an activity - one that involves others
and that was a list of things to do to help you find love.
Not everyone needs love in their life.
2007-01-24 22:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings!
Of course everyone needs love! However there is a stark difference of what people "need" and what they are "entitled to."
You seem like a great guy. And, true, you come off as a bit self-centered, BUT I do understand why this is, so will anyone else who has been in a situation similar to yours: you are venting your frustration and disappointment and sadness. THAT you are "entitled to" do.
Now as for love. What is love to you? Cliched, yes, but sometimes we need to understand what exactly it is that we want. Is it companionship? Sexual compatibility? Common interests? Or "a little of column A, a little of column B?"
Listen Buddy, love will come to you. It has it's own way, it has it's own time. But it will come. It will come two or three times, if we're lucky enough. Have YOU ever been in love? If so, what happened to that relationship?
Until then, he is some advice: Look back at meaningful relationships you've had in the past. Find out what your strengths were and focus on them. Discover why they've gone sour, and work on those areas. Talk to friends and co-workers. Go out into the world and be happy and look forward to the day when she/he will cross your path. 'Cause it's gonna happen.
All my best,
-S-
2007-01-25 06:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bronzed 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is probably nothing wrong with you, however when you get into this frame of mind your pessimism becomes self -fufilling prophecy. No matter how many times you are hurt, keep putting yourself out there, build up your hope again, as it sound like you have lost some of it. Does your company have a gay group you could join? Do you go out to gay bars? You should. You shoule socialise with as many gay people as you can, by opening your network, you will meet people and dazzle them with all of your great qualities. Try making some female friends too. They always know someone who is single and would be perfect for you. Go out on all dates that are offered to you, even if you knwo you will never be attracted to them, making friends remember is the best way to advertise your self as being on the lookout for someone you could potentially have a relationship with.... Good luck honey x x x x x x
2007-01-25 06:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a large world and there are many people in many situations what are you looking for in a person.
What is love to you?
I have a friend that can't meet people that don't drag him down and he is a nice person. He meets them in the wrong places.
Better to socialize a lot and meet someone that has character and is a true person.
What do you like to do maybe join a rescue group that saves animals that people abandon.
You may meet a caring person that will be just great.
2007-01-25 06:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by trailertrashsucks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deeper look inside yourself to see if there is anything about you that would turn you off if you met you walking through the door. Start with friendships that are deep and nurturing. You should want to start with baby steps and not rush into a long term commitment that may be damaging to you or the other individual
2007-01-25 06:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Asher H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your time will come. I haven't had a loving relationship in almost a decade & of course it gets lonely but I have to make myself believe that I will find someone & he'll find me
2007-01-25 06:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a gay man, I'd date you.
A lot of people I know have met their partners on internet dating sites. It's a good place to start. And not as scary as it seems.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 06:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find love when you are not expecting it. You will find love when you are not looking for love. You will find love when the universe is ready for you to find love. Do not accept any thing less than your true love. Just wait for it.
2007-01-25 06:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you stop looking for love and just stay there and wait? there is a thing " u find love when you try to give" love will find u first!!! just be patient....
2007-01-27 10:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is way overrated.
2007-01-25 06:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋