I don't want her or her kids to have what my mum worked damn hard for and didn't get to enjoy. They have just bought a caravan together to travel and are marrying in April.
2007-01-24 21:58:20 · 14 answers · asked by BeeMay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she died a year ago
2007-01-24 22:07:19 · update #1
I'm not after his money it's more about what was my mums..........hard to expliain
2007-01-24 22:09:18 · update #2
I just went thru this last year with MY MOM. I work for a law firm and had them both sign a pre-nuptial agreement. This agreement made sure whatever my DAD left for my brother and I remained in TRUST---including the $$$ she used from my DADS insurance policies he left behind when she bought a NEW HOME.
TEll your DAD NOT to comingle his money and that will be specified in the pre-nuptial agreement. If he sells the home your MOM and he lived in and buys a new one it will become a marital asset. The CARAVAN they purchased will be a marital asset as well even if they haven't married already.
I know where you're coming from on this one. I had to protect what my DAD worked hard for to put into trust for my brother and myself in the event of his death.
I visited my MOM at Christmas with her new husband. She's spending the money as fast as she can----doing this improvement and that improvement on her place. The new husband has been told....NO $$$$ of his is to be used. You know he doesn't even have his own things in my moms house and to make it a plus----he kept his home 18 miles away---just in case something happens to mom......SMART GUY ----he knows my brother and I will not sit back and let him take over. THEIR monies are not co-mingled and each pays a portion of the groceries, and utilities. MOM pays her own house insurance, car insurance and pays for the taxes on HER property. This is the way it should be until the DEATH do us part comes in this marriage!
GOOD luck---been in your shoes and mine are wearing thin at the soles!
2007-01-24 22:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Urgent that you ask your dad to have your name added to the deed to the house. Reason for this being if your dad remarries, and dies before his new wife, she will get the house and contents and could leave it to her kids. There are alot of gold diggers out there.
So to protect your interests you have to have your name on the deed of the house and any vehicles or other property that require titles or deeds in order for it to be handed down to your side of the family.
In all 50 states the property of a deceased person goes directly to the spouse regardless of any will previously written.
This happened in our family, my dad passed away after having remarried, his new wife inherited everything and then when she died 2 years later everything went to my kids as my kids names had been added to the property deeds before he died. Her family didn't get anything except what we chose to give them which is basically what she brought to the marriage which was next to nothing.
2007-01-24 22:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mothers and fathers nonetheless stay contained in the kinfolk abode , yet when I first left abode at the same time as i become 18 i hated no longer being there.I loved my own abode notwithstanding it wasnt an same ,each and every person sitting around the table on sunday for lunch , and in my abode it become so quiet .the difficulty is that become this variety of lengthy time period in the past the memory has diminished quite. earlier i moved to Spain i had lived interior an same abode for 30 years and both our sons and me had a real difficulty leaving the in user-friendly words abode that they had widely used .I nonetheless bypass over it now and had to bypass and take a seem at it when I went to England very last week. So i recognize precisely the way you experience yet you nonetheless have your innovations and no you'll take that remote from you.
2016-12-03 00:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your mum's will said. If she left all her belongings to her husband, then they are now his to do with as he pleases - even to sell, in the case of the house.
What you can do is ask your father - in a non-confrontational way - if you can have some of your mum's belongings as keepsakes. I'm sure he wouldn't say no.
2007-01-24 22:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, you have nothing to do with this. Unless you have paid for the house along with your parents and your name is on the deed it is not yours and you don't have a say in the matter. Your father has a right to do what he wants with it. I really don't think that you are this upset about the house but by the fact that your father is remarrying someone that is not your mother. I am sorry for your loss but your father has a right to live his life and does not need your permission. good luck
2007-01-24 22:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok let him enjoy his happiness but , get ur part in that house then , u live alone , for me i dont want his new wife , hard to explain , his new wife wants only the money of ur dad , 71 yrs old can climb in bed? cant stand any more ,sorry but that is the truth
2007-01-24 22:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they buy a new house after they get married - your house is gone. if he is in a sane mind u can do nothing at all - his house, he can do whatever he wants. unless your mother left a will where she said that u own a part of the house. in that case your daddy can't sell it without your agreement. but i guess mother didn't leave any will. well, house is gone so let your father enjoy his last years in peace and happiness
2007-01-24 22:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He can do what he wants with his stuff, after all it's his. All you can do is hold your tongue and cross your fingers. If you come across angry (your baggage concerning the new wife) while talking about this with him will only push him away from you. I can understand your feelings. Your not alone with this sort of thing. Good luck to you.
2007-01-24 22:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well honey...I hate to break it to you but it's not your call....if there is something that was your mothers that you would like, ask your dad for it...otherwise, step back because what you are describing is what will happen.....if he remarrys, you will only be entitled to what he leaves you in his will and the wife gets the rest.....that's the way it goes...if you think that your dad doesn't understand this or wouldn't want it that way, then talk to him...good luck
2007-01-24 22:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him to update his will. But keep in mind that his new wife will most likely get the new home if he were to past away first.
2007-01-24 22:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by A J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋