Am I a failure?

Question

I was unsuccessful in a job interview couple of weeks ago in which I felt down..

..Now I have found out that the person who got the job is someone I know. I do like this person - thats not the issue.

Issue is..I feel stupid and humiliated in front of people I know at work..

Answer 1

No matter how much you fail in life, you are not a failure. Failing an experiment does not mean the results are inconclusive.

"Strength isn't determined by how many times you can get hit before falling. Strength is determined by how many times you fall and can get back up again." - From the movie "Rocky Balboa"

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about your disappointment. We all have to learn to deal with rejection, don't we? Try and hold your head up high, don't beat yourself up over this - it won't help you.

Try looking at this from another perspective: you may have performed very well in your interview. The recruiter must have felt that the other applicant's skills/experience/personal qualities suited this particular role better than your own. This certainly does not mean that you're a failure, or that you're stupid.

Perhaps you could get some feedback from the interviewer about what they thought your strengths and weaknesses are: any boss worth their salt will happily give you this information. You now have a great opportunity to use this feedback to develop your skills and get that next promotion.

I've been there. I know how you feel: I've always been extremely ambitious and competitive, and sometimes that has meant I've raised my sights a little too high in the past... not good for someone who doesn't handle rejection very well. I was told by a spiteful boss that I'd never get anywhere and I let it devastate me because I had no confidence. I worked at it, bettered myself, and I am now the manager of a £multi-million flagship store. It took a while but here I am, and doing a damn good job of it too, even if I do say so myself. :-)

You are not a failure, and you will go on to create your own success - if you choose to do so.

Answer 3

You are only a failure if you believe yourself to be one, which can be seen as in a psychological sense. Everyone has their own areas of life they are better at than others, and not being good at job interviews is not something you should think you are a failure for; I attended one only a few weeks ago and utterly messed that one up right from the minute I walked through the door.
The next time you have a job interview, try doing some research on the company, so you will have a better understanding of things as you start the interview, and can answer the employer's questions with as little hesitation as possible.

Answer 4

The only thing that makes someone a failure is if they don't try for something or if they don't get up after falling down. You are not a failure because you made an effort and at least gave it a try, there is no reason to be ashamed of being unsuccesful sometimes, it happens to everyone and is a part of life.
You are just going through a phase and if you let it, things will soon take a turn for the better for you.
In the meantime maybe you can work out what things you have to do to better your chances at an interview in the future!
Good luck and never stop trying for anything!

Answer 5

I dont know why u feel stupid and humiliated... just because you didnt get the job doesnt mean you're a failure, everybody doesnt get the job every single time they go for an interview -- it really depends if you're the rite person for the job or not. it doesnt mean you arent intelligent or bright or good enough--its just that you may not suit the job or you're just not what theyre looking for. Dont give up, and keep trying out for more jobs-you're bound to succeed if you believe you can do it and just because you were turned down by someone, doesnt mean the next person will!! Good luck

Answer 6

To be basic NO a huge No hehe fairly while i'm attempting to bypass a huge examination for my activity for the previous 18 years ughhhh...i'm discovering however that for the duration of each and every failure i replaced into no longer waiting and greater effective to fail ans see what i do no longer understand then to bypass... Like passing your drivers examination I somewhat have failed some situations thancontinual on the line and injury myself or somebody else.... by love of extremely solid friends they gave me the help and that i did no longer provide up now I truthfully have this vast examination that i could bypass already and be performed with it if something I truthfully have found out that with all my failures say this examination that I failed some situations that a minimum of i attempted and function no longer given up and that's what I could say approximately failure.....

Answer 7

No, of course you aren't.
You got interviewed, so you must have some qualities.
Just because someone else got the job doesn't mean you are a failure.
Perhaps it was a foregone conclusion that the successful candidate got the job, and the reason for interviewing was just internal politics.

Answer 8

No, you are not a failure. You are wonderful and should just be glad your friend got the job, and go out there and try and find yourself a different job, and you need listen to Ice Ice Baby a few times as well!

Answer 9

NEGATIVE ! YOU stepped up to the plate and tried your best, don't beat yourself up (I've felt that way too), things happen for a reason, you will probably get a better job, people who are successful are not always smart, they have determination. Like my mom always said "Life is Full of funny twists and turns". Embrace the power that you have YOU HAVE THE SPARK THAT IS NEEDED ! GO START SOME FIRES, and ONE will catch, Good luck, WE ARE ALL COUNTING ON YOU ! GO MAKE IT WORK ! AND HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH FOR TRYING !

Answer 10

Falling is not the failure not getting up is!!!

So forget that you were not successful prepare your self better for the future interviews. Get a positive attitude and wave of the negative remarks!!