My husband's 19 year old daughter is pregnant and living with her boyfriend(who is living with his parents) We have always paid support and all of her medical bills,but don't feel that we should pay for this.Who is responsible?
2007-01-24 20:13:00 · 22 answers · asked by broken Lynda 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She is responsible! If she's old enough to have sex and get pregnant she is old enough to start taking care of her responsibilities. Tell her to contact your local social service office and apply for medical assistance. It's a for sure thing she'll get it since she's pregnant.
2007-01-24 20:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is legally an adult, and is responsible for her medical care. Why don't you have her on an insurance program where you only pay a fixed amount a month and she pays the deductable and copays... that makes alot more sense than cutting her off and giving the baby a bad start in life.
The lot of you need to sit down and talk. Seriously. You're all adults, now behave like a group of adults.
2007-01-25 07:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Its entirly up to yourself, I think you & your partner need to sit down and have a serious convo 2bh. But if you put the child up for adoption do you really think you would be able to go thru with it? You will have that special bond. Im 19 and 4 months pregnant, & I am so scared and worried its un-true. Im the same as you want a great career, But im going to try and still do my photographers course and parents are going to help out so i can do this and my partner is when hes not at work as hes full time employed and i am. Would your family not be able to help? I dont know about the hospital bills because i have the NHS were i live so dont have to pay for anything.. Just think about what you really want and would you be able to do it all. x
2016-05-24 06:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents of this unborn child should pay the bills themselves. She's not even living under your roof, you really have no obligation to pay for anything for her. She and the boyfriend are ADULTS now...they need to act like it. Maybe what they need is a swift kick in the right direction.
Too bad a baby is involved here...you definitely don't want the baby to suffer for their mistakes or lack of direction in their life. Perhaps you and your husband could talk to the boyfriend's parents and see what kind of solution can be reached for the "young'uns"? Talk with the parents first, then perhaps ALL of you should talk with the couple. BTW, where's your stepdaughter's mother? If she's still living, and capable, she also needs to be involved.
2007-01-25 06:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by Megan V 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am a 19 year old girl who is pregnant living with my mum. when my boyfriend found out that i was pregnant, he seemed to avoid me maybe because he doesnt want to be responsible. and i told my mum about it. and now he has to pay for all the medical bills even though he doesnt want to be the father of the baby by getting married. my parents shouldnt be the one who is responsible for what i have done so that is what seems right for us right now maybe until the baby is about a year old. but my mum has to talk to his parents too. and that is a bit troublesome if they dont want to cooperate.
2007-01-24 21:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by ziana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should be asking is if your future grandchild doesn't deserve better than his mother can now afford,that is if the med will pay for it.But on the other hand you have no obligation as she has a boyfriend and as the father should look after her.
It's actually all about how you would feel if she had to take government med.
2007-01-24 20:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Boyfriend should be responsible. If not, come up with a compromise - both sets of parents pay half each if no other alternative can be made. She can not go unassisted!
2007-01-24 20:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOUR DAUGHTER IS AN ADULT AND IS RESPONSIBLE FOR HER OWN NEEDS.
She is not living with you and it doens't sound like she's going to school. Why are you continuing to support her sorry ***? Her medical care is now the responsibility of her and her boyfriend. Time for her to enter the real world and figure out it isn't all sugarplums and rainbows.
2007-01-25 03:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's an adult. Part of having a child is being able to care for it. She should be responsible for the bills.
2007-01-24 23:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the father and mother are responsible no one else time for her and him to grow up and get a life and as for adoption i would not let a grandchild go up for adoption but if i had to take one in i would have custody and then the mom and dad of this child would be on there own completely
2007-01-24 20:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋