what to do with abuser?how not to make him affect you?

Question

someone call me a girl name but im a boy
maybe because of a situation which he thought im weak what to do to feel good abot myself?
Thx

Answer 1

An option is realising that you are in control of your own mind. And you can choose who and what should matter to you. For example, you could choose if some friends matter more to you than others. In this case, this person is irrelevant to you and YOUR life. Let alone, the reason he is bullying you which is in his HEAD and not yours.
It might be hard to assume positions that you aren't. But like charity, it all start in your mind. You'll find the confidence there.
More importantly, the more you think about revenge or attack, the more you'll be attached and involved in the situation. Human beings act to be responded to! If they do not get the appropriate response they look else where.

Answer 2

I had a similar problem, my friends dared me to wear a pink trench coat, so being a jokester, I did... and not just for the one day that they dared me to, I wore it for half a year. You can only imagine the names I was called, being a junior in high school. I learned through that how hard it is to stand out in a way that you are uncomfortable with. Yes, I have done my fair share of name calling, maybe even more, but now I see how hard it can be sometimes. what I learned was that you just have to see it from the other person's point of view, I'm not saying to call them names, just see it from thier point of view. try and see why they may have been calling you those names, if it's one of your imperfections, it is possible to change that (not always the best choice, but it does work), If it's the other person's imperfections, then there isn't much that you can do about it, so the best solution would be to just ignore it, and if it gets to bad, then say something back to them, don't yell or sceam at them, just think up some witty remark and very calmly say it to them.

Answer 3

I dont know if that someone who call you a girl is either a boy or a girl but to make make yourself not to bother on those who tell you that you are a girl, just dont mind them dont be affected on what they say bacause the tendenecy of it is that you might get into a fight and loose a friend because of just a small joke that they made. have a long patience because in the end they will stop telling you that your a girl because hey will realize that your not affected on what they say.

Answer 4

There are always people out there in society around us who are abusive, verbally, emotionally or in other ways.This is unfortunately the way life is.It is like presence of microbes and viruses around you..you get affected by them now and then just like when you get an infection in your body.....So you need to first of all recognise that ,what they say is abuse and not what you really are, however sometimes certain behaviours in you might provocate abuse ...you need to think about what you do yourself and make sure you do not put yourself in a position that leads to other people look down at you.

Answer 5

Just look at him and how pathetic he is and that should make you feel better. He's obviously got stuff going on in his life that makes him feel so inadequate that he has to lash out at others to big himself up. Try to shoot him down in flames when he does this to you again, research some one liners or put downs yourself and have them ready for when he attacks again. Failing this, I'd personally catch the little scrote on his own and smack the crap out of him on the quiet, but that's just me. Hope you get it sorted.

Answer 6

not sure what age u r but but t sonds like u r being bullied and because its common doesnt mean its ok.............a lot of pple buuly or belittle pple coz they has low self esteem and tat is his way to make himself feel better abt himself...babe just move on with ur life...if anything its him u shld free sorry for,,,,,,if he bullies u again stand up to him and tell him to bloody grow....but if u feel its persistant i wld square up to him....if u think u can take him ofr have a friend who can and show him u r not weak....lol kidding dont resort to violence.....good luck

Answer 7

Are you typing with a lisp? never mind. Either punch him in the mouth next time and get some respect, or buy some pink panties.

Answer 8

Build a wall in your mind that wouldn't allow them to influence you. Piccture it again and again.

Answer 9

React sharply and forget it thereafter.