i have been in a relationship for 7yrs and we have 3 children togather.
he like to call me names and put me down there are 9 kids that live in our house,he dont help clean the house.take care of the kids he lets them do what ever they want while i'm off for a break,while he plays the x-box 360,he pays no attention to me because of the x-box360,he goes to work comes home and gets straight on x-box 360 till 1or 2am non stop till he goes to bed.and he is always telling me to get a job!
how do i ?
he thinks it is normal and i get upset am i in the wrong to get upset ?
what should i do?
please help me
2007-01-24 19:42:48 · 12 answers · asked by lilmommeranda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get a job, put some of it away, and take your kids and move, you and your children deserves better. I did it, so can you...
2007-01-24 19:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Diana J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in an abusive relationship. Get a job to help care for the family and children you have brought into this world. Are you doing your share here too? Most of all try to get yourself a decent job and save money so you will not have to stay in an abusive home.
2007-01-25 03:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jan C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds selfish and young you both need counseling go to your church for help or find a real counselor and for your and his information a stay at home mom is the hardest job there is and with the most responsability the lives of his childrend he is taking you for granted get help before it is to late and ps don't put up with name calling ever!
2007-01-25 03:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by lorie v 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least he has no time to make you pregnant for the 4th time! You only get treated as well as you let people treat you. You must have some pretty low self-esteem to let him treat you like that. He's right on one point, get a job. After you get out of this scary relationship.
2007-01-25 03:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My God, how can you stand there and allow yourself to be DISRESPECTED that way. ??? It is time to take a stance and you better clearly make it known how you feel. I don't know how but you better get going here. How did you even allow this to happen--did it just happen overnight??? Well it won't be easy but you need to do something and do it after you clearly think about what the problems are-and the talking has begun. No one needs to be unhappy or treated like a slave---it is wrong and NOT normal
2007-01-25 03:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how the hell can you afford an x-box 360 if there are nine kids running around the house anyway talk to him and see if he is willing to help out and do his fair share around the house and if he isn't get out of there quickly
2007-01-25 04:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by megan p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have three kids but there are nine in the house. Whose are they? Nine kids in the house and you've got money for an xbox 360?
Your question sounds like bull-s---
2007-01-25 03:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have not given him any responsibility in the past regarding household errands, and he is not doing anything. Slowly try to put some responsibility on him, and involve the children, maybe a small girl, so that he accepts some responsibility in house work.
2007-01-25 03:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you wrong to get upset? Hell no, I'd be fuming. He's just being a lazy, selfish bully and he needs to show you some respect. Stand up to him and tell him to pull his weight - if he doesn't, dump him.
2007-01-25 03:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no abuse is OK. He must not be happy....maybe mar rage counseling is a way to make things better. If he isn't willing to do something to make things better then your wasting your time with him.
2007-01-25 04:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by hthammond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋