to not marry me before the baby is born and that was a huge must for me because of my beleifs, to be married before our child is born. Now, he's going back on his word about a few things and I feel like he is talking to other women and becoming distant to me because of my figure. He's obssessed to rule the universe with his career. He talks more of his future than OUR future including the baby. Will he see things more clear when the baby is born or am I just being paranoid as many other single expecting moms at this time in pregnancy.
2007-01-24 19:33:35 · 9 answers · asked by tiff 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this while you're pregnant. I can't say if his opinion will change after the child is born, but there is a good possibility. A friend of mine was 8 months pregnant with her second child and her boyfriend (who is father of both kids) decided he didn't want to be with her anymore. They split but he was in the delivery room when thier child was born. After family and friends had left, they talked and worked things out while holding thier newborn. I tell you this not because it will definantly happen in your relationship, but so that you know there is hope. I think that men get just as scared of being a parent as women do, big changes in life are hard to deal with. The only thing you can do is talk to him and be there for your child regardless of what he does. You sound like a level headed woman and I hope that everything works out for you. Good Luck!
2007-01-24 19:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by imhalf_the_sourgirl_iused_tobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twice in my life. I didn't try to fight something so natural. Both times it was a two way fixation. I believe in letting a person know when I realize all the love for him is in me, and that it's okay if they don't feel the same. But, men do show it in many ways when they cannot express it. When they do, you must control your daily expectations. First romance rolled into married teen parents. Wind from hell swept him across the country to go find himself, as I raised our beautiful daughter, alone 3 mos before age 18. The loyalty and a love of knowing survived all the years. I sought a life long special friend above all others that Destiny would pick out for me. There are circumstances, but here I am with him in my life 4 yrs as opposed to never having met. Should a tomorrow come that would separate us, there will be years for a goodbye I would not be able to forget. It would be my prayer and hope he would forget he was leaving. When it seems it could happen, Fate has not allowed it.
2016-05-24 06:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely at a very sensitive time and I can't tell you how much of what you're feeling is due to hormones.
However, he's definitely not behaving very well. When the baby's born, it may open his eyes. Or, the crying may drive him around the bend. There's no way of knowing without seeing how he behaves.
I assume that you've tried having a serious conversation with him. You might also want to try some counseling. This is a big adjustment for him too...
2007-01-24 19:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a long talk with him and voice all your concerns. He may have fear about becoming a father/husband all at once. Most men have fears about both, and to have both at the same time can be troubling. Maybe if you ask him he will tell you and you can work on it together.
You can be sexy and pregnant. Just put the effort to look nice no matter what. When he sees that you are hot even with a baby in tow he will be happier to become a family with both of you.
PS. don't forget about hubby after the baby is born!
2007-01-24 19:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he hasent married you when you wanted him to i would say it want happen it sounds to me hes a very selfish person your having his baby and obviously he is not really wanting the responsibility that comes along with that if he really loved you he would be catering to your needs and feelings 100 percent but he might just be scared which some new fathers are until they realise its really going to be okay when bub comes along i hope thats all is happenening for your sake cause it is really heart breaking when you have to deal with a new baby on your own so good luck to you .
2007-01-24 20:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by kathleen w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant I felt so unattractive and ugly, I put on 20 kilos but have lost it all so that is good. Anyway my point is we get very sensitive as our bodies change, we start thinking crazy things and get scared about what lies ahead of us. It's all very natural so just concerntrate on the baby for now and see how things pan out.
All the best
2007-01-24 21:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me too. Talking marriage, looking at houses. Then he's gone. Pregnancy freaks guys out.. let him go. I would suggest finding someone mature enough to deal with emotion without huring you
2007-01-24 19:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be getting cold feet, but it's not uncommon for men to act like jerks, and if he's seeing other women, why would you want him in your life? I don't want to be sound cruel, but don't you think you should have been married, before you got pregnant, if your beliefs are that important to you?
2007-01-24 19:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yup i got sp paranoid after 6mnths that i scared my boyf away. so b careful
2007-01-24 20:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋