2007-01-24 19:33:27 · 13 answers · asked by TAGG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes you have higher expectations of your first child. I know I did, when things he did or said weren't to my satisfaction I held him responsible for things that happened more so than the other two boys. My dependence on him was tremendous, resulting in my being disappointed at times, and taking things out on him. When I finally realized that he didn't have to be perfect nor my best friend...was when the expectations ceased. I hope this helps
2007-01-24 19:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by chatterella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , I don't think you hate ur child at all. No mother could hate there child. but for you to bring that question here and omit what you do u are realizing you have a problem. I would suggest you seek medical attention for ur self. And maybe for ur child because verbal abuse is the worst form of abuse there is bruises heal, words will stick with a person for ever. Hope you get some help best of luck,
2007-01-25 03:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by â?¥Annieâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello honey, try thinking back, if you were to be the child and being abuse, and how would you feel (if you can think and talk, what would you say to the one who's abusing you)..
You might say; i'm sorry, i cant think what your thinking, i can't stand on my own feet to support myself, or kindly guide me till i'm independent and i will do everything by myself, without disturbing your time. And when i grow up, i will pay you back for whatever the greatfull things you've done for me... Please forgive me mum!!
If your child could say all this, would you still abuse your child???
I'm not sure, but try thinking about the happiness being together with your child, you might love your child even much more instead of kept abusing her...
Try your best honey..
2007-01-25 03:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of first borns reflect a lot of the parents looks, mannerisms etc. Maybe you see something in her of yourself or your partner that you don't like. But, hey it's not your childs fault. If you don't stop acting this way she will grow up hating you and will treat you the same way.
2007-01-25 03:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by drawman61 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is because you are immature and frustrated with life.
Do yourself and your child a favour - get some professional help.
And stop shouting. Remember that when she grows up, she's going to remember how you treated her. You will regret it then, but it will be too late. So get a grip on it now.
2007-01-25 04:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but i would get anger management classes or find a stress reliever. Plus u may expect too much from her, let her be a child!
2007-01-25 04:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Angelina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask if you hate her or not, than no, you don't. Because if you hated her, you would know it and not be asking it. You are probably under too much stress, you just need to learn to control it more. And to not take it out on your kid.
2007-01-25 04:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a child has done anything to cause you to hate her. You need to get help with anger management. Please do so for the well being of all concerned. Good luck. You do need help.
2007-01-25 03:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! No parents will hate their own child, you are just under too much stress.
2007-01-25 03:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you expect the most from her...you probably want what's best for her but when she doesn't meet your expectations, you lose control...you have to try to control yourself because that's not good at all for her...she will feel you don't love her, (which i don't believe can be true) and suffer a lot from it...
2007-01-25 04:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by ladysarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋