I am pregnant and my usband had a vasectomy?

Question

i am pregnant and my husband had a vasectomy 25 years ago, i have not slept with anyone esle besides him. how can that be possible, please help

Answer 1

Wow! That really puts you in an awkward situation doesn't it? to say the least!!!!! So here you are, not planning for children and there's one on the way anyhow. I've decided to answer your question because something tells me you are being truthful. Ironically, you can deny extramarital sex for the rest of your life and depending upon your husband's attitude towards your dellema, your goose could be cooked anyhow. However, all is not lost. I trust your husband, though probably a little perplexed at this time, is a kind and understanding person. I'm now a fuzzy old grandpa age 63 of 3 precious, wonderful grand kids, having been married to the same wonderful lady for some 40 odd years now. From where I'm standing, I'd like to think I'd eventually be OK with my wife if she were walking in your shoes right now. But of course I may be giving myself too much credit, because as a typical husband, I've never walked that path.

I've said that to say this and since this must be a one way conversation, I have to assume things that maybe aren't applicable to your case. So, If I'm being too presumptious at times, please disreguard it and take things that speak to you for what they are worth.

I do know that you and your husband must be many years down the road in your own marriage and just maybe one of those things you are feeling is fear, fear for what you may be perceiving about what your husband is really thinking. Please be careful, because If you choose to react to this, it could be as devistating to your marriage on your part as if your husband really is less trusting of you on his part. All of us who enjoy successful marriages know that for better, or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, it's all about trust and that's the bottom line. Just be cool and encourage your husband to do the same until all the wash is hung out so to speak. Maybe in the meantime for many reasons it might be wise to seek council from someone equipped to help you get through this. I do a lot of reading about all kinds of subjects and as I understand it there are instances where a vasectomy can reverse itself, especially those done in earlier years.

As mentioned before, I'm writing this because I believe you yet, I know that my words alone are not going to change things that are about to happen, except hopefully a few attitudes if need be. Besides fear, you must be going through a lot of emotional distress at this time in your life. So under these difficult circumstances, please take some things I have to say to heart. The primary attitude you need to hang onto is this. No matter what, how you feel about it, what your own attitude is, what you could, would, or wanted doesn't matter at this point, a miraculous event is about to take place at your home. First and foremost, not sure what you're thinking right now, but I do hope you decide to allow this little one to come into the world. God has a special place in his heart for those women who allow themselves to be a doorway of life for "His" little ones. I'm absolutely sure God has something in mind for this very special soul, God bless you.

In the meantime, there are some things you both can do to erase any doubt of indiscressions if need be. First of all have your husband go to a urologist or other such doctor who speciallizes in such things and have him get a sperm count. Chances are, the doctor will find some sperm someplace. It only takes one sperm to do the deed you know and as with a normal sperm release where literally millions of sperm take the journey, it's not like they help each other get to the destination. Whether it's just one sperm, or millions in the discharge, each individual sperm takes the same journey and it's survival of the fittest along the way. Secondly, after the baby is born, have a DNA test done, this will prove beyond a doubt whether the child is a result of conception by you and your husband.
Good luck and God Bless you.
I am shockeedoc

Answer 2

Its actually more common than most people think. When my husband had his vasectomy, he was told there were several things that could affect failure rates. 1. Age at time of vasectomy. The younger you are the higher incidence of it failing. 2. Not getting your sperm count checked. Many people dont go in for a follow up. They say if you have 3 samples that are sperm free, then you are OK....BUT thats not always true. 3. The incidence of failure increases after 7 years. Not sure why this is, but many fail between 7-12 years after the procedure. 4. The procedure. Some procedures have a higher failure rate than others. Just cutting the vas has a higher failure rate than cutting and burning. Some doctors cut, burn and even clip the ends to try to keep them from going back. You might check with his doctor to find out which procedure he had done. Hope things work out and you have a healthy baby!

Answer 3

My best friend's husband had a vasectomy, and 5 years later they had another child who looked exactly like his brothers!

The doctors said it is possible for the vasectomy to not be as effective over the years as having her tubes tied. She got her tubes tied shortly thereafter and VOILA! No more kids.

Answer 4

I found this on the web:

Statistics vary a little, but the failure rate of vasectomy six months or later following the procedure is about 1 in 1000. The failure is usually due to spontaneous reconnection of one side. To document that this has indeed occurred simply do a semen analysis: If sperm are present it confirms the reconnection. -- regory Polito, MD


hope it helps

Answer 5

It depends on the type of vasectomy, if they just snipped the tube, it could eventually heal. If it was clipped and a section removed, then it is less likely. But if it's been 25 years, I'd say it sounds as if he's healed it.

Answer 6

lol im in the swame boat. boyfriend had a vasectomy 30 years ago and now we are expecting twins, and he's the only man' i've had sex with in over a year.
his doc told him vasectomys that old can slip and need to be redone and that over 20 yrs old should have a sperm count done periodically...now they tell us

Answer 7

No birth control is 100% effective. According to published link below, vasectomy has a 0.1% per year failure rate. It is extremely unlikely, but a tiny possibility. Please go see your doctor for further help. Your husband can also go see a MD to check him out.

Answer 8

It is not uncommon for then to reverse themselves. He needs to go back to the doctor, they will do a sperm count, and if he's letting sperm thru then they can do another vasectomy. Although it's kinda late. If your insurance will pay for yearly sperm counts, it may not be a bad idea.

Answer 9

I think there is a very small chance that a male who has a vasectormy can get someone pregnant. The chances are very small 3% if not less then that. You are one of those small percentages.

Answer 10

Vasectomies are not foolproof. It could have been done badly or could have healed up.

His urologist should check his sperm count.

You obviously need to break this to him VERY carefully.