What to do, when a long, really long period comes in life (7 yrs) when u feel helpless,?

Question

can't do anything even after doing genuine efforts,can't find any proper direction & it seems that more u work for betterment more god put hurdles in front of u.Even every person u meet just make fun of u instead of giving sympathy.& u feel strongly that this period of life will never end!!!

Answer 1

The measure of a man is not based on his ability to lift, fight, drink it is not based on his height, weight, or complexion but instead in his ability to rise once he has fallen. You must be like the bamboo tree; it bends but does not break.

There is no debate over the truth and existence of suffering. It is present with every sunrise and sunset it is the first truth of the Four Noble Truths. You must as a man walk and breath everyday as if the failures of the past where nothing more than lessons that will benefit you as you continue to live.

You must be sincere in your efforts, make a list of all your failures, all your wrong doings, all your pain, suffering, regret pour it all on paper seal it in an envelope and burry it, burn it. Speak of it no more but remember the experience.
Nothing in this world is permanent, from the grass on the fields to the stars above we are all in a constant universal change, it is what the Buddhists call Anicca: impermanence. Therefore you as a person can change as well, you are changing everyday every moment even until the very last breath, you will be in a constant state of change mentally, physically, and spiritually. But it is up to you, your actions that will determine whether the change is favorable or not.

Dispair and pity will not get you anywhere set goals and priorities. Change your enviroment, work, take a couple classes at a community college, walk in the mornings, take up an instrument, hobby, simple things such as these (well maybe not that simple) do have a great effect on your mental and physical well-being.

Well good luck and never be afraid to ask for help people are more compassionate then you think.

Answer 2

Everyone one feels down and helpless from time to time, but I would say that after 7 years you may be suffering from depression. It's commendable that you've been trying to better yourself, but sometimes we all need a little help.

Can you afford to see a counselor or psychologist? Some places may charge on a "sliding scale" to make it more affordable. Look in your yellow pages for social services and see what's available.

There's no shame in talking to a counselor! Many people do it! A professional can help you map out some direction for your life and can also help you deal with some of the stumbling blocks in your way. They are also good at helping you see what joys and accomplishments there are already in your life -- sometimes we overlook them because we are so busy being blue. Last of all, a psychologist might recommend a short-term anti-depressant (they have to be prescribed by a medical doctor, though), which can be a good temporary boost while you get your perspective back in the right place it's supposed to be!

I wish you luck.

Answer 3

There is a famous proverb "This too shall pass". And I believe in this proverb. I too are having a lot of hurdles at present but I know things will get better day by day (If you want it). Bad things or situations happens to everybody and it's not what happens to us that counts, its how we deal with them.

I think you should do things that mak you happy and stay away from people that brings you down. I am sure things will turn around if you keep on striving. Just take it day by day...Good luck :)

Answer 4

Look mohit I hate to be the one to be telling you this-- but life is extremely hard ! For those who endure and push against the odds-- there are really great rewards-- for those who sit and lick their wounds and search for "sympathy"--- life will beat to death !! You, my friend are too self-conscience and closed in around yourself to see the opportunities that surround you ! And, nothing of this will change at all until YOU do something about it !! No one is going to show up with a magic wand and end your trials and tribulations !! YOU have to do something OUTSIDE YOURSELF to unlock what is going on here !! Go volunteer at a food bank or homeless shelter for three months--that-- my little friend will put you eye to eye with some people that have hurdles to deal with --- and it will give you a superb frame of reference as to just how good you have it in comparison !! Maybe from there-- you can find something to feel good about and THAT will be the start of the major change that YOU need here !!!

Answer 5

well maybe u should try to do somethinh new n if u work for ur betterment than dont think there could be any hurdles they r situations that test ur self.......n if u want sympathy then u r a very helpless person dont expect it from any1 just believe in
"god helps those who help themselves"