Add to that the fact that you both have nothing in common anymore except the past?
2007-01-24 18:43:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I attempted to restart a friendship after many years that a friend and I were physically apart. It didn't work out. (And we are now by each other again.) And yes, he brought up incidences from my own past several times, which I did not appreciate. That's one thing you can say about starting completely new friendships -- there's no "baggage" involved, nothing the new friend can throw at us to make us feel bad about ourselves. Many times friends from our childhood or youth only remember us as we were, not the adults we have become.
True friends "let go" of memories that embarrass us or make us feel bad. They don't save them and use them to attack us when we are down or when the friend tries "leveling" on us to make himself or herself look better.
It's time to look for new friends.
2007-01-24 22:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but I have been doing this on a very regular basis lately. It seems myself and my friends have absolutely nothing in common anymore and some of them I can't stand. But after 15 years of being friends with someone I felt attached. I think I am even going to leave my boyfriend too. We go back and forth and have been for 6 years on and off. We have nothing in common anymore except we are comfortable together and have a history. But I'm starting to thinkI would be much more happier making new friends now that I am older that I actually have a good time with and can make new memories with. Actually I've done this with three of my best friends in the last 2 years. We don't speak at all. Sentences that start with "hey do you remember the time" are boring.
2007-01-24 18:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by hstoic01 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OMG! Why are you nonetheless acquaintances with this chick? you at the on the spot are not married to her or some thing, are you? Kick her **** to the shrink! She's poisonous to both you and your outdoors relationships. I guess she drains your capacity whenever you're round her, precise? imagine about the way you sense once you're round her (imagine about the way you sense in the previous you drink and the subsequent day, no longer for the time of.. eating distorts our concept about people). Get a backbone and promote off her as a chum. people replace after college, each and every from time to time for the more severe. believe me, i recognize. I had a chum like that when. We were tremendous acquaintances in highschool, lost contact, and then met up about 2 years afterwards. Lemme inform you, she became f****d precise up! She broke up 2 of my relationships, became continually borrowing money, held no job, tried to intervene in my life and what I did.. dropping her became the perfect component I ever did! of direction, i tried seeing previous all that being the guy i became. even though it only were given to that factor that I had to imagine about me. So please, do not proceed making this mistake.
2016-10-16 02:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by schwenck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a bit sad if you ended a relationship because they reminded you of the past but if you have nothing in common then it would just fizzle out anyway
2007-01-24 18:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.This is because when someone reminds you of the past,you will feel disappoint.However most bad experience teaches you something good.But it also depends on what past experience it was.Besides by being a friend with that person you can prove it to him how confident you are by learning from the bad experience and by leading a better life.Sometimes this can help you to build your image.
2007-01-24 18:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rita 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes. If your friend only reminds you of the bad past and you don't get on, what's the point being friends?
2007-01-24 18:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If someone reminds you of a bad time in your past and you tell them to beat it, then you are only putting yourself in a worse situation by letting your past control you. What happens is
1) you lose a friend
2) your still having trouble with your bad past
3) forgeting about will only allow the problem to resurface later
so reconcile your past, and quit losing friends!
2007-01-24 18:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Thats kinda what I'm trying to do right now with one of my friends, she brings up the past, puts me down and every time I see her I can't get the past out of my mind. Yeah, people change, some friends are better left off in the past.
2007-01-24 18:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Rae-Rae Nikkoles <3 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope. Most of the time am able to laugh at my bad past with my friends.
2007-01-24 18:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes i had a friend who is realy of bad character and she will be with anyone if they have money.
it has been 5yrs i did not meet or talk with her.
but i know she will never change .
BUT TILL NOW SOMETIMES I REMEMBER HER WHEN I SEE MY OLD SCHOOL.
2007-01-24 18:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by sili r 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋