and what does it mean if the man you were getting married to in 3 months...who has been over his ex wife for over a year....see's her and decides he still has feelings for her...and then he tells you that he's not in love with you..and loves you and then says he's not in love with either one of you, but loves you both....what the hell does that mean? Someone please help. I'm so confused.....Im just looking for the right answer....it's a long complicated situation....but what he said..does not make sense to me
2007-01-24 18:24:29 · 8 answers · asked by Starla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what i mean is...in one night...that's what he said....how can he not be in love with me all of a sudden....yet not be in love with either one of us...yet ..the day before he was still in love with me...assuring me that everything was ok.
2007-01-24 18:36:41 · update #1
he told me...in one night that he's not in love with me. I asked if he's in love with her...he said no....that he loves both of us. What the **** does that mean...that's confusing...is he really not in love with me...or jsut confused...wha't smore likely...i just need help...this is a lot to take in....
2007-01-24 18:37:49 · update #2
he's going to leave....and we're going to see what happens...but this seems too fast for me and he wont go to counceling....everything is being dragged out from under me...we have a life together....we live together...share our car..and our car note....we wanted kids....my whole life changed over night..and if he gets a call...he's leaving within a few days...and says that i can go stay at my parents house...because im so upset...i haven't gone to work..this just happened around 1 am on sunday...the 22nd...im in disbelief...he could be gone in a few days..tomorrow even..i dont know what to do...im scared....i feel betrayed..im confused...i've been through a lot with him....a lot....and what the hell is going on...i just dont understand.
2007-01-24 18:40:38 · update #3
bottom line being is he does not want to be with u, unless the ex doesnt work out he still has u to lean back on,drop him he will just continue to break your heart
2007-01-24 18:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by slyshaunamichelle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, both of you are confused, so take a time out. You are going through allot in a shot time. Go get some comfort and sort it out with your parents or close friends.
Second, if you want to know if he really love you, let him loose. If he come back to you then he is yours forever. If he doesn't, then he wasn't yours from the beginning.
Lastly. all his loans, payments, etc. put them in writing "right now" and let him sign before he leave. If he doesn't comeback to get married, you can seek recovery.
Hope this help
good luck
2007-01-25 03:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes decisions of love can be difficult. When things are not mutual on both sides, there is a great chance for divorce. Just say okay, give him time to figure out what he really wants. Kind of like the old saying "If you love someone, set them free, if they come back, it was meant to be." You want to have no doubts when planning to marry. I would wait.
2007-01-25 02:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes we can't help who we love, evidently he did not get over the wife, he doesn't want to hurt u so he is telling u he doesn't love her either, so to save your heart, so u will think u and his ex are the same, but honestly he has to love one of u more. he is lying to u to avoid confrontation. he may love u, but he wants to be with her, meaning he loves her more. sometimes for whatever reason someone doesn't want to be with us, and the longer we refuse to accept it the longer we will be in the pain, unable to move on, be free, and not knowing what to do. but the facts do speak for themselves, all this occurred after he went back and saw her again. he tells u he doesn't love her either, so u won't know the truth, so u can't confront him, and get angry at the truth. think he is lying to u, and it is so cowardly not to be honest with u so u can move on with your life. we do tend to believe the ones we love, just human nature to do that, but he is a liar and a cheat.and i wouldn't put too much faith in him as he seems he is always going to be in love with her. why buy trouble, why not look at this as an opportunity to get out of a no win situation.
2007-01-25 10:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's the one that's confused. He and you need to have a real long heart to heart talk and decide what he is going to do.
2007-01-25 02:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Slim Jim 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This individual definately DOES NOT know what he wants and til he decides, I think I would keep out of his life. You certainly don't want to get involved in that situation!
2007-01-25 02:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not normal and It will never make sense because he likes to play games.
2007-01-25 02:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don;'t marry confusion
2007-01-25 02:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋