what to do when your wife make more money than you?

Question

It's not that I'm feeling inferior. The problem is that she still expects me to take on the responsiblities of being the sole provider. I would feel better if we shared this responsibility so that we as a family could live more comfortably than to have one struggle. Besides she's bringing a ready made family to the table whereas i just have myself. I believe that two incomes are needed to really make it today. I don't have it like that to be able to be the sole provider how do I come to a compromise?

Answer 1

Enjoy it ;-)

Answer 2

Be proud that you have married an intelligent successful woman that has chosen you to share her life with. With that said, it is obvious that you are feeling a little inferior and lacking a little self-respect due to your wife's income. Your self-esteem as a man should not be based on the amount of money you provide for your family, it should be based on the amount of attention, love, and support that you contribute to your family. My husband is a firefighter, and many of his co-workers have highly successful wives that make more than their husbands. In today's world it takes both partners to contribute to the family in order to live a comfortable life. Concentrate on the amount of other things you contribute to your marriage, rather than just the amount of income you can provide.

Answer 3

well, it's not bad when a woman has good salary. it makes her to feel independent. but in such cases men feel uncomfortable and it's quite natural. and when time passes this feeling is strengthening. to avoid this I think a man should try to find out ways how to solve the problem (of course if this is a problem for him). pass some training courses which is a good way to improve skills, this makes easier to find new good job with high salary. or take some business credit from bank and start own business. so good luck :)

Answer 4

So what! As long as both of you work together, then what is the problem? Men always seem to have that feeling that they have to be the "better" half all the time. You should be happy she's doing well.

Answer 5

If I were you, I would be glad my family wasn't poor and wouldn't fret about who the money was coming from. If you were making more money than your wife, logically, she would be able to have the exact same complaint that you do right now.

Answer 6

You should appreciate her that she is helping you with bringing in income for the 'both' of you. Don't feel and resentment towards her, she is your wife. Just be her husband and tell her thank you for what she does.

Answer 7

My wife doesn't make more $ a hour then me but if it was not for the job she has our family would not have health care. Her $ a hour + Health care = greater then my $ a hour. But thats what works for our family, remember that is your wife, you are a family this is not a compatition.

Answer 8

Continue to love, respect and support her career and accomplishments.

It's no one else's business but yours and your wife's anyway.

As long as you treat each other with respect and admiration, it shouldn't matter if she's a brain surgeon and you're a Walmart manager. She loves you and you love her.

It's just money. Save up for retirement and college funds.

Answer 9

Get over it. This is an equal society and good on your wife for doing well for herself. You should be thankful you have a wife who works, and is successful

Answer 10

go get a degree and find a well paying job... I wouldn't mind if my wife made more money. If it bothers you so much then go do something about it.

Answer 11

if the two of you actually love each other money should not be a issue or a concern