If he trusts me,he trust me and if he doesn't he doesn't.Right?As his wife don't I deserve his complete trust?
2007-01-24 17:38:38 · 24 answers · asked by Madison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, as his wife you deserve his complete trust. As your husband, doesn't he deserve your complete devotion? Do you even think about how your actions make him feel? You are the one that determines whether or not his trust in you remains strong. Abuse him and you will lose him.
2007-01-24 18:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by mac&cheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're spending time with other men other than your husband, um, yeah he has no right to trust you. If he had a brain, he'd tell you to knock it off and start acting like HIS woman. Why don't you put some effort into your marriage instead of being the town flirt and boosting your self esteem by flirting with other men. The only man you should be spending time with is your husband.
2007-01-25 02:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you spend more time with other people than him, then he has reason not to trust. As his wife, you should be "accessible" to him. (Not always at his beck in call, but available.) Plus, if one guy has a thing for you, then that would make him very uncomfortable. (He'd pick up on it before you would!) Also, if you've had a past with any of them, that wouldn't help either.
If he had as many female friends, & spent just as much time with them, what would you think?
Also, if you both work & you spend most of your off time with other guys, when you COULD be with your husband, then he'll definately feel like you don't want to be with him.
If your time is within reason & your limiting WHAT you do & WHERE you go with guys, (you shouldn't be going to clubs with other guys, without him. Alcohol has funny effects!)
If all is within reason, then you should reaffirm your love & attraction to him. Do something sweet or special with him & just for him!
2007-01-25 01:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think trust will only go so far. I f you are married, then you shouldn't be spending time with other men !! Of course your husband will get jealous and start to wonder. You may be innocent, but the men you are spending time with may not be. It is an issue of respect. It shouldn't be - "if you trust me, then it gives me free reign to do whatever !"
2007-01-25 02:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by daisy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes trust goes a long ways and you mention would it
matter how many other guys I spend time with and how
much, how much what?. If a married woman or a marr-
ied man is married why would it be that they have so
much time to be with other women or men? Seems to me
if someone is happy in their marriage they don't need to
spend so much time with another man friend or woman
friend becasue they would be less interested. So in
answer to your question Trust is important but it can also
be used for someone to escape.
2007-01-25 23:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time you are with other guys cuts into the time you are with him, does it not? It might not be a matter of trust, it might be a matter of he isn't getting enough time with you.
As long as he never has to go without, then I don't see why he should mind, if he trusts you.
2007-01-25 09:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO , what he is not trusting is that you want to spend time with other guys trust has nothing to do with that, he knows you don't care about him if you wouldn't want to spend time with other guys, I think you have to rethink this one, I think you go to be around other guys so that they can make you feel something inside that you might be missing. Divorce is not pretty and it only takes away from you. Give it a try and pretend like your divorced and all the men out there will want one thing out of you and that is sex. treasure your marriage and it will be great, don't mess it up by trying to complicate it just to make you feel good at the cost of your own husband feelings if you love him you will not want him to hurt.
Really don't mess up cause you will at one point regret it if he finds someone that is willing to spend the time with him, like your willing to spend it with your guy friends.
2007-01-25 01:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there should be complete trust but that also means he trust you not to make him jealous or for you to be around people he doesn't like. Meaning he trust you to respect him. It's your call do you love him more than your friends?
2007-01-25 02:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man myself there are always times when that thought is the back of the mind no matter how much we love and trust our companion.
2007-01-25 01:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by ryguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can trust but sometimes it gets a little embarrasing to keep saying oh she is out with blah blah blah. You can pust it too far, and if you want so much time with others then your still looking, and you should let your guy move on, he can find someone who likes to spend most of her time with him. As his wife you should care about his compfort, not feeding your ego.
2007-01-25 02:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋