How do you get over Heart-breaks, I'm hurt and I feel horrible Any help is appreciated?

Question

I met the woman I fell in love with a few years back, we got seperated for 3 years, things did not work out and she wanted to be with someone else. She dissapeared for 3 years but I kept looking for her all those years to tell her that I loved her a lot, I never dated anyone else in those years but I thought of her a lot " I mean it " then one day I found her picture online by luck and I contacted her, she was married to someone else and was going through a divorce and she did eventually get divorced. she wasn't doing well at all and I was there for her, once again it was the best time of my life, we talked for endless hours and made love but now she told me that she doesen't love me, she only sees me as a friend and she disappeared out of my life again, I feel horrible and I lost interest in everything, I'm falling behind and I miss her a lot....I feel sad and my days seem to go on forever. I can't stop thinking of her..How can I get over her....I wish we never met...I feel miserable

Answer 1

You won't believe me. You won't want to.

It can never work between you and her. She used you twice.

Do what you need to do to move on. Move to another place to start over. In your case, I think you need a drastic change. Years are slipping by and you are wasting your time on someone you don't even really know. You are in love with the illusion of her.

You deserve to be happy. There is someone fantastic out there for you. Believe it and go find her.

Gather the strength from deep inside (you know you have it) and pick yourself up again. This time, know that the only way you will have a happy future with someone else is if you give them a chance. This obsession with her has been sabatoging your future.

Answer 2

I know what you are going through (kind of). I'm in the same boat you are. I was with someone for four years and she cheated and left me for someone else. Then two months later we got back together but I could never get over it, the hurt and some of the anger, so we decided to take a break and then she decided that she didn't want this anymore, we broke up a couple of months back. I am doing pretty good, but when I talked to her once, it made things worse, that is why I recommend that you do not talk to her at all until you have moved on other wise you will just keep moving in circles and not foward. Do things (positive things) to keep yourself busy, learn a new hoppy or take a cooking class that a lot of nice women will be at or learn boxing. Best of luck to ya.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, heartache is never easy. But one thing you can do to help ease the pain is to just remember who you are as a person and put a positive spin on it by telling yourself that she lost out on the best thing to happen to her.. you! It sounds like she used you to help her get over her divorce, and you don't deserve that. You need to be with a woman who wants to be with you all the time and not just when things are bad.

You will go through the hurt and you really should "own" it until you are ready to take that next step and wake up one morning and realize that you are ready to get back out there and meet someone who truly truly wants to be with you.

Good luck! Don't let her take your power... take it back!

Answer 4

you would never ease the pain until you take your step forward, open your heart for someone else and learn from the past not regret it. Just think this "if she loves you she will never leave you and dissapeared like that"
if she ever made love to you, it's just her running from her marriage failure, she was down and then you came
Move on..., just dont let her taking your life spirit away, even if you're crying all night long, will she know it?, I dont think so..it's your loss if you do that because she wont know what you're feeling now. Dont stuck on one girl, love is around you, maybe out there someone's in love with you without you noticing it

Answer 5

Wow bro, you are hurting--that's understandable. But with all the time that has past with you spending all this time thinking and dreaming of a woman that has disappointed you, I say it is time to snap out of it and get moving. Any more and it will be bordering on an obsession with her. You need to learn to handle rejection--it happens to us all. Any loss needs time but you have overdone it...move on.It is all up to you. Face it like a man--she is gone and that's that.Wasting any more time is going to cause you problems that a professional will need to help you get out of. No need for all that---you can get going and move on.You sound like a person with what is called care taker syndrome--find someone else to care for and hopefully love someday....but not everyone needs to be smothered with what you mistake for caring at this time. Good luck, man

Answer 6

one advice that i could give you is to write a letter to her, but don't send it or anything. write a letter, and explain in detail why you truly care about her and why she shouldn't have treated you the way she did. when your done, read back and make sure that you haven't forgotten anything. finally, take a deep breath, and burn it with every single memory that you have of her. afterwards, take some time for yourself and find something that YOU like to do by yourself that you enjoy. clear your head, and look forward for a better future for yourself.
hope this helps, and take care.

Answer 7

why r u torturing urself fr someone who is nt worth u..i understand that luv is blind...y are u wasting ur emotions and love on someone who doesnt even care..its her loss that she failed to notice the care and love u have fr her...she even suffered fr that still she doesnt want to learn frm that experience of hers...i suggest u something ...give ur love to someone else and give someone else a chance to luv u..plzz dont waste it..i know its hard bt u will eventually get over her,,its her destiny that she shldnt realize wat she is losing by rejecting ur love..bt listen someone out there is longing fr ur love and care and also u need it more than anyone else..u have suffered a lot..trust me..if u try u will get someone who will love u fr wat u are and then tom wen u look back u will have laugh at urself that u were mad to have loved someone like her and had u continued doing so u wud have lost someone who wud shape ur life in a much better way....Plzz give someone else chance to love u and give ur love to someone who is worth it...trust me u will fine though it wud take some bt u will get over her.....after reading this look out ..someone is there...cheer up....life can be cruel and testing at times bt then the rewards it gives even its late..they r really fruitful and satisfying....move on....someone else is waiting fr u....

Answer 8

Concentrate on the negative part of your time with her. She left you for someone else. That should be enough. Wait untill she`s not home then break in and find out where she`s hiding your balls.