So I just got married. . . ?

Question

And now she breaks out with all the rules,
I'm not allowed to do anything without permission,
I have to follow orders all day long,
Is there anything I can do?

I'm not divorcing her, she is smokin hot!

Answer 1

you are in big trouble Harry Yaker Sandwich

Get back in the basement, I will have to get the basement doors locked changed, bad bad bad Yaky. You have forced me now to get the belt out. This is going to hurt me more than you

Answer 2

one day she is not going to be smoking hot... she is going to be a 49 year old over weight mom with wrinkles and gray hair... so if you married her because she is smoking hot then your doomed to start with...

as far as rules go... as long as you are treating her the way that you want her to treat you... like you need to put her first in your life. and consider her feelings in everything you do... and don't do anything that if she did them that would tear your world apart...

Now welcome to marriage...

now you have to give 100 percent effort to her and she has to give you 100 percent effort toward you... it is more than a 50-50 deal... you know what she expects from you and she should know what you expect from her... then do it because you love each other and the others happiness is what make you happy.. and from the sound of it you are not doing your part... or she wouldn't be bringing out the rules... yes this means if she cooks you clean the dishes... if she vacuums then you dust... if she writes out the bills then you drop the bills off and pay them.. she shouldn't have to be demanding anything... you should be asking what can I do to make your life easier.. in turn you can spend more time with me...

you men think just because you get married that it is the woman's responsibility to cook clean and wait on you hand and foot then work all day then come home and cater to all your fantasies... well it goes both ways... so grow up and do the honey do list and keep your love light burning for this hot woman. because when you get older you are going to have to love her for more than her hot body... but the way I see it by reading in between the lines your marriage was over before it started... because you were more interested in her image on the outside than the image in the inside... all I can say is grow up and be the man you promised you would be when you married her..

Answer 3

She's a princess when you date her, & when she has you trapped, the witch comes out! I've seen this.

You tell her straight out! NO! This is not the way things were before & I'm not going to live like this. You're my wife, NOT my mother!

Remember that you teach people how to treat you. If you leave her walk all over you, then you let her do that to you. Stand up for yourself & tell her the way it is. You have to stir the sh*t in order to be happy. If she threatens divorce, then tell her that maybe we made a mistake & should divorce.

When someone is desperate to get what they want, they'll pull out ANY card, & that includes, "you don't love me", "maybe we shouldn't have gotten married, or maybe we should get a divorce".

STAND TALL & STAND STRONG! There's no doormat here! Think about it, I don't think that you want to spend the next 10, 15 or 20 years living like this.

It's do or die! Stand for something, or fall for anything!

Answer 4

u2 sit down after a good meal and not be tired.. write down what u expect and she will do same read them aloud shut up and listen ..as ladies go 1st youll get ur turn then she go first of her opinions of wot u wrote and then u .. then the bartering comes of coexistence to a happy medium of compromises.. thisisnt meant to take back seat adn suffer it means to suggest how u 2 can live .. and try to .. and her as well .. or your doomed. this goes for money how much of what u both can afford and what accts u have together or not etc right down to her night out and your night out as u 2 had before marriage but this time being married is just that no picking up dates on the sly not even if ur mad sad unhappy always talk it out.. make this a signed pact.. talk it out no matter how embarrassing or painful or little or big communicating is off to a real bad start now as u just got married and already ur blindsided so see how this is already??? communication breakdown will ruin it.

Answer 5

Well, what’s she’s ‘ordering’ you to do? If she’s ordering you to do things like…oh, I don’t know…come home before 3 am or give up your other girlfriends, then that’s one thing. But if she’s attempting to control every aspect of your life down to the smallest detail, then that’s a different thing. And in that case, I have to wonder why you didn’t have a clue she was like that BEFORE you married her.

Answer 6

You're NOT ALLOWED? What are you...3 years old?
You HAVE TO follow orders? Does she have a gun?
Get a backbone boy!
But...if like "kp" says above, if she's asking you to come home before 3am and give up the girlfriends, well...

Answer 7

1. Tell her that you didn't think your wedding ring, came with the same restrictions that a dog leash does.
2. Tell her you love her, but you don't think that it's fair she sets these rules, and try to come to some type of agreement.
3. Start doing it back to her, and see how she likes it, maybe if you treated her the same, she might back off.

Answer 8

You should live as if you are a play actor who plays his role in a drama and win awards. Just make her feel that you only act according to her. Let others say what may.
But let her feel that You are very keen in HEARING HER. Lavishly lend your years to her, and you may do what you think good for both.
Hear all say nothing is a better policy.

Answer 9

Communicate with one another. You don't need another mother. Do tell her that she can't change you and your ways. Compromise if need be. I kinda understand, but at the same time, you gave a man an inch they take a mile. Do you want the marriage to work? Perhaps an annulment? Check out your resourses.

Answer 10

Call her bluff and don't compromise at all on being happy and defending yourself if she's being a bizzatch.

Whatever she gets away with now will just continue to get worse, do not convince yourself that your being "nice" and "understanding" by humoring her. CUT IT OFF NOW, WITHOUT ANGER OR RANCOR, JUST TREAT HER LIKE A CHILD THAT NEEDS A FIRM REDIRECTION TOWARDS BEING CIVIL.