What can I do to get rid of my homesickness?

Question

I don't know why but I have been feeling very alone and sad because I am not with my family in NYC. I am away at college and I am used to living on my own since I am almost going to graduate but for some reason it is hitting me hard being away from them.

Answer 1

L@@k all you have to remember is that there will be an end to this, meaning when college is over or on a vacation, you'll get to see them again, try calling them and that might relieve some of your home sickness, and by the way, try to get involved with your friends as maybe it's becasue of your surrounding as you might not be blending in or even feeling comfortable being there in the first place.
Either way, one day you'll be with them and in better times.

From: an immigrant, been in the US for 7 years and did not see my family for three years now, it sucks as when we speak on the phone it's more painfull.

Answer 2

All of us are strangers away from home and those we love. It is one of the truths about us human beings. We treasure the familiar and the comfortable, and most of us consider our old friends as tried and true.

But someone once said "Bloom where you're planted." That wonderful phrase means make the most of the opportunity you have to experience other people, other places, other experiences. You don't have to jettison your affection for home and those people there who will always be part of your life.

Don't think of it as being some stranger in a strange land. You are not an exile, for heaven's sake. And this isn't like the 19th century pioneers who left those behind when they took the trail west, knowing they would never return. Your family are as close as a telephone call, or a computer e-mail, or a photo , or all of those and more.

I would say (not being anthing like a psychologist), that you are having some kind of separation anxiety not because of distance, but because, since you will soon graduate, you are becoming totally an adult now. The distance is not the problem. Your personal individuality has evolved. You are really now leaving the nest.

Don't sweat it, my friend. There are millions like you. The cure for the blues is to go out and ring some bells, meet some people, develop a social life that is more than just an occasional party.

There are two kinds of people in the world (he said, like a philosopher ! ) those who believe they will be happy in life, and those who believe they will be sad in life. And the thing is, whichever way you think, that's what is going to happen !

Good luck, and don't try to over-analyze it. It happens to most of us away at college, or called away from home by jobs. You can deal with it.

Answer 3

Yup getting ready to go out on your own ..is the time when we really feel that letting go..but get rid of homesickness? Why ? This is wonderful...
You are homesick because you have such a great family. You have a sacred bond with them.. they are the source of your values, and high standards and the tolerance you have toward others and the passion and creative energy that stirs in you and drives you toward achieving your goals…it is something to cherish and to lift you up when you are sad...memories to draw on when you get in a jam or feel down or feel unappreciated. They are such a source of strength to you that you feel a void when they are not near... you do not feel complete and that is fine because they feel the same way without you ..but as time goes by that will change and you will find a new someone to invest your heart and mind and soul in and he will be to you what your family is today.. you will laugh with him and cry with him and hold him in your heart as you now hold your family and he will be a very lucky man indeed. But get rid of homesickness oh no this is what you should savor....it is special and wonderful and a testimony of the love you have and that is all around you ....
It is only when we ache in the absence of the source of our love that we know we have found it. You are homesick because you are loved. So do not think to get rid of it …dwell on it ..enjoy it …it is a blessing. But make time for friends because being active…well it really is the best way to be happy. And don’t you have a cam on your computer? *wink*

Answer 4

try to make friends with your hallmates if you're in a residence hall, and definitely try to make some friends with classmates. Absorb yourself in the university experience and it'll be a lot easier to adjust. I just went through all that last quarter, because I'm a freshman. Just get yourself out there, talk to random people on the elevator, before class when people are just sitting around talking, etc. haha that's how I made a now-good friend of mine, we were in the elevator and just randomly struck up a conversation haha

Answer 5

you Call them or Send them a vidio Messengse as abov and leave them alone for a while say 2 weeks then do the same. you may feel home sick for sevral minitus but it wont stay. Thats What I used too do in an English Bording school

Answer 6

you have to remember why you left to begin with,maybe peace and quiet or school but you are independant and all you need is to call them and hear the voice to comfort you, everyone gets this way when your away, a hobby helps and keep friends close or make new ones because the ones you have now are not there for you and you had to turn to online

Answer 7

I must say keep in touch with those in NYC, perhaps get out and enjoy yourself, keep a journal of what it is that you're experiencing, your thoughts and feelings. Get a hobby as well.

Answer 8

After you graduate are you moving back to NYC?

Maybe you are just getting anxious because it is getting closer to Graduation.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Try to make a few really good friends, especially your roommate. You will make them feel not home sick, and visa versa.

Answer 10

It's time to grow up and find your own identity. You're whole life you're identity has been directly related to your family, and it always will to an extent. College is a time to grow and find yourself. Just be tough.