I feel Marriage will be a thing of the past soon, anyone agree ?

Question

It's like 7 out of 10 marriages fail, and the other 3 are miserable ones. I believe people will just live together and not marry in the near future, anyone agree ?

I too was sold a bag of goods by the church and a lot of others..... I fought way less with my wife when we were just dating, What the hell is the need to be married if you love someone?? To me it's a scam, and women want it more than men, don't deny this. 99% of guys would like to live with their chicks rather than marry.

Answer 1

I'd like to know where you got your stats since they would indicate that there aren't any happy marriages to be found. I do think that the percentage of living together households will increase over time but that marriage as an institution will never go away and I hope it doesn't. I'm half of one of those couples who aren't represented in your figures, a happy one, and it sounds to me as if somebody is still bitter over his own relationship going South. Deal with this, because you couldn't make it fly doesn't mean that someone else isn't capable of soaring.

Answer 2

Maybe you should look at the current marriage situation different. In the past it was looked down upon to co-habitat without being married, and divorce was severely looked down upon because it was thought of as a sin. So maybe back then, since divorce was almost illegal, they stayed married. Now a days, since women have equal chance of filing for divorce, that gives opportunity for more divorces to happen. On the other hand, a lot of people are getting married really soon, or for the wrong reasons (had a child together and think it's the right thing to do). Also, some divorces are happening for issues that I think could be solved if the couple were willing to work at it, and it seems that many aren't. I agree that marriages will be in the minority in the next few years, but doesn't mean that it will die away.

Answer 3

I think you need to double-check your statistics. About half of all marriages fail. I don't know how many are miserable - opinions would be a little harder to track than the number of marriage certificates. If you don't personally know 100% of all men and have discussed their view of marriage, I don't think you should guess what percentage would rather live with their chicks than marry. I also want to tell you that my ex-boyfriend wanted to marry me very badly. I was with him for seven years and I wouldn't marry him. I insisted we live together first. Then, he wouldn't consent to buying a house unless I married him. We broke up so I'm glad I did not do it (but I never got a house either until I purchased one by myself three years ago!). I think that, eventually, marriages will lose popularity simply because humans will continue to live longer and longer. Spending 30-50 years with the same person is not nearly as daunting as spending 50-70 years with a person! So in the future, I would guess that people will have more than one "life" partner in their very long lives.

Answer 4

First of all 5/10 marriages fail (and I do believe that 2-3 out of the remaining 5 are misreable) however, I don't think that people get married for the right reason. Imarried my first wife for security and I'll admit sex and to help plan my life. Unfortunately I don't think I really loved her (she said she loved me- but ireally was a controlling relationship-) and we divorced after 13 years ( I cheated) but we have two great children out of it who I love dearly. Now recently I met another woman on line who I'm head over heels in love with after only a few months- we are planning to get married soon (?toosoon, I think not-see my question) because we love, trust and respect each other- without all three- iIthink marriage is doomed- but people will always try since they are lonely , insecure, broke, etc..

Answer 5

i understand your feeling. but the marriage thing, according to my perception, will not fade away too fast yet. when dating, you appreciate each other more and since it's not as secure, you actually work to secure it. a piece of paper does matter and that's why some people don't sign it or get into it. if it's the same, why bother making up a 'marriage' word? so you got married believing it's the right thing to do according to church? sorry to hear that...maybe you should get some counseling. good luck!

Answer 6

I have two thoughts on this.

1) I have seen more relationships fail after marriage. I saw good, long-lasting relationships explode once they said "I do." In fact, it happened to me. One week after the honeymoon we were at eachothers throats.

2) At the same time, tell me how you feel about this post the next time you feel a ton of bricks fall on your head just by looking at someone. Or when, much to your disbelief, you see your future children in her eyes. Tell me then how impractical marriage is.

Answer 7

So where do those of us living in very happy marriages fit into your equation? Your stats are skewed and your theory is flawed. Your perception of marriage is unrealistic. Don't devalue the sanctity of marriage all together because there are unsuccessful ones out there. I believe that people living together before marriage contribute to the increasing numbers of divorces (please research...you are more likely to end in divorce if you life together before marriage)!

Answer 8

I dont feel this at all and I sure hope it never happens as this would be very sad:( I dont think it is right to just shack up together... Moral people will still get married so no i do not feel that it will cease to exist. Depends on the guy not all guys feel the same way you do!

Answer 9

Marriage will always be there, it's just that making a
total un-conditional committment will soon be the thing
of the past, as it is getting more and more difficult to find
two people that think the same.

Answer 10

i agree with you 100 percent, because marriage does not mean
the same. the general 90 percent beleive in living together
istead of marry. that the way it is. society has changed so much
marriage does not mean the same as it did. im 46 so i from the
old school and it just does not mean anything. believe in marriiage
myself. but it take work and so many people now days really dont
want to work at it, to easy to just live together. and that really
a shame.