I have a friend who is gay. Recently he started flirting with me. I did not mind. Kinda enjoyed the attention. It has gotten a way more heated. I have asked him to stop. He called me today to say he no longer wants to hang out at least for 3 months since he kinda now takes me as a boyfriend and wants time to get over me. I agreed. Is this a common trend and does any one think we can ever remain friends cos he is a really cool guy to hang out with. At least in my opinion.
2007-01-24 16:08:31 · 10 answers · asked by Prof. Em 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sometimes people mistake friendship for something deeper - borne out of an individual's desire for the friendship to be more than it is. Happens the world over & not just to gays either. You can remain friends - if he can get over his crush on you. Otherwise, he'll always harbour those feelings for you and this will make you feel uncomfortable, albeit subliminally. That would spoil your friendship.
2007-01-24 22:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great question,
I kinda had an issue similar to this one, although I did not have a good outcome. So I will give you opposite advice than what I did.
Last year I met this guy through a good friend, he is straight and I gay, He was seeing my friend who is a girl, and well he was really hot, and at times it seemed like he would be coming onto me, and my boyfriend. Needless to say I put a stop to it, and told him we could no longer be friends, though he won't admit to it, I know what was happening.
However he was a really cool guy and a good friend, so I do believe to just give it a little time to cool down, don't lose a good friendship over this unless, you guy friend is unable to get over you.
Good Luck to ya!!
2007-01-24 19:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by brock2296 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I even have heard human beings have this thought until eventually now. i'm uncertain there is any relation, even nevertheless it would desire to look as though there is now and lower back. while i ought to pick a label, i might perceive as a lesbian. I even have an intensive relationship with my mom, yet she does no longer practice affection plenty. I even have an in basic terms approximately non-existent relationship with my father. consistent with those, in accordance to that concept, I must be promptly. So i'm no longer so particular that holds up.
2016-09-27 23:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by doolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some gay friends and I wintness stuff like this all the time. Hey if a gay thinks you're hot then the ladies must too. Just think about the positives.
2007-01-24 16:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Fisher 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Just re assert you boundaries. Tell him he is only a friend. If he can't handle it, they you really can't be friends. Tell him everything you just said here. Hopefully he is mature enough to get it. If not...
2007-01-24 18:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait it out and things might go back
to normal...when they do you should
tell him how sorry you are that
things got so out of hand....it takes 2
2007-01-24 16:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Obsessive compulsive, it is what it is. Relax and let your friend come back to you. I just think he might be a little over the edge.
2007-01-24 16:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yes.
friends first,
then lovers is a good concept.
too bad it isn't more common
2007-01-24 16:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you enjoyed it? You must have those tendencies as you welcome it
2007-01-24 16:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by adiahudo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell the gay this: DEPART FROM ME EVILDOER!
2007-01-24 16:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by krumpmaster terrell 4 · 2⤊ 14⤋