I understand that it's not a good idea to form relationships with professors while still in the class (favoritism, etc.). But why is it such a big deal when a prof becomes involved with a student who will never be his student again? Especially if they are both single and in and around the same age? Why would this jepeardize a professors job? I like my professor (used to be professor ) a lot, and I get the feeling he likes me. He spends a lot of time talking with me in his office and he often looks at me in ways that makes me think he does like me. I want to ask him for coffee but haven't because I've heard this might jepeardize his job. I don't mind as much that he might turn me down since I'm no longer his student. But what's the big deal anyway? Why can't we be free to date if we both want to? Lawyers date their clients all the time.
2007-01-24 16:05:50 · 8 answers · asked by s_helen1 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
There are two reasons that professors are discouraged by their colleagues and employers from forming sexual relationships with their students. These reasons have to do with the position that professors hold as mentors, and as fiduciaries.
Mentors are sponsors, guides, exemplars, counselors, and evaluators of students. An intimate relationship between a professor and a student would cripple a professor's potential to act responsibly in each of these roles.
Professors are also fiduciaries. A fiduciary relationship is a relationship of trust, in which the fiduciary's most important job is to act always in the best interest of the student. Intimate relationships would irreparably compromise a professor's ability to act in this capacity.
Professors who enter into relationships with students (any student on the professor's campus) also compromise their ability to act in mentoring and fiduciary capacities with OTHER students.
Think about it. If you knew a professor was dating a friend of yours, what would you think about that professor? Would you go to her or him for counsel? for mentoring? Would you see him or her as an example to emulate? WOULD YOU TRUST HIM or HER?
Students often come to me and talk about extremely personal issues. What if I were sleeping with one of that student's friends? or classmates? What would that do to that student? Could she still come to me for advice and guidance? Honestly, she would be silly to do so. She would be wrong to trust me.
You mention that lawyers sometimes date clients. Only ethically compromised lawyers do so, because lawyers are also fiduciaries.
2007-01-24 16:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by X 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If you are no longer his student it is not a big deal anymore. However, when you were his student it is because he is in a position of authority over you, so that could lead to pressuring on either side. When he is not your professor anymore, I don't think it is a big deal, but you'd have to actually check laws if you are still enrolled at the university.
2007-01-24 16:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Catherine♥ 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just to name a few: it is not ethnic for instructors to date their students. It is not ethical if Presidents, financial aid advisors and etc to date students from their campuses. It could cause the student emotional pain, nightmares, and etc, also if these people presist in doing so or giving them a lower grade if they refuse to and etc.
2007-01-24 16:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by 111 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother was able to take courses in the same business school my father taught in - but never took his class. My father had my grandfather as a professor as he was dating my grandfathers daughter (my mom). So what does that mean - it means I think it really its much of an ethical issue if both parties are ok with it and can handle the situation in a mature manner. If he is interested and you are both ok with it you may have to keep things very quiet.
Best of Luck to you!!!
2007-01-24 16:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
OK, you're boy friend is your teacher and if he doesn't give you an A you're not going to give him any. Even if you are not that human it will put a strain on your relationship and may offer an unfair disadvantage for students not dating him (of which there will be many).
Glad I could help
2007-01-24 16:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
If both people are at the age of consent. I don't know what the problem is.
2007-01-24 16:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by queendebadow 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i have started teaching in the university this year, and they just told us that we cant date our students during the semester that we are teaching them, so i am almost sure that there's no problem if he doesntteach you anymore... not unless your university has different rules...
2007-01-24 16:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by alwayss_ready 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
well for one teachers wont flunk u if ur dating them....especially having sex with them
2007-01-24 16:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by lalgita12 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋