Me and my boyfriend have been togeather for going on 6 months! He just recently asked me to marry him! I said yes! I truly love him but now i am having second thoughts! I am only 19 years old! My family loves him as does his family me! But i am just worried that i am not ready! Do you think this is just pre-wedding jitters? I dont know what to do! I am scared i am going to make the wrong decision! If i change my mind now i am afride that he will think i no longer love him! And i do not want to lose him! Help!!
2007-01-24 16:03:24 · 16 answers · asked by HaZeLeYeZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes 6mos is too soon, 19 is too young.More like 5yrs and 25 years old. Listen to Tom Leykis www.blowmeuptom.com.
2007-01-24 16:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
At 19 years old, 6 months may or may not be too soon to get married. Being that you are worried that you are not quite ready, it could be too soon. There is noting wrong with a long engagement! Tell your sweetie that you love him and want to marry him, but you want to take your time to plan the perfect wedding AND marriage! Utilize that time to get premarital counciling (which can make a good relationship into a great relationship) and build a solid foundation for your marriage! If he really loves you enough to marry you, he will also respect you enough to not rush you! It will benefit you both in the long run! Your family will be happy to see that you are mature enough to know that marriage is a serious commitment and should absolutely not be rushed! Good Luck!
2007-01-24 16:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nurse Jacqui 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you are only 19. You have yet to experience many other relationships and adventures in your life. You may feel you're ready, but all the "what-if's" will likely be yours now and even more so in a few years down the road. Yes, you're in love, but maybe waiting for another 6 months won't hurt. Don't be afraid to lose him. If he truly loves you, then he will understand and be patient. A long engagement might work well too. It gives you time to really get to know each other AND yourselves!
2007-01-24 17:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months is early and at 19, you are very, very young. Marriage is for a LIFETIME! You are looking at maybe 60+ years as a married woman. Why would you want to rush into this type of committment when you are so young? I would spend as much time on your own enjoying your youth and doing the things that young people do. If this guy loves you, he will understand and if it is "meant to be" you two will be married... someday. By no means, is it an easy task and us girls grow-up to think that marriage equals "happily ever after". It most certainly does not. Just looking at the quesitons posted here on Yahoo should let you know that it is a struggle. Take your time, sweetie enjoy the years of independence before you take the giant leap into a lifetime partnership!!
2007-01-24 16:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait at least another six months or even longer and make sure this is the one you want to spend the rest of your life and days with. Be sure before you marry. Take your time and dont rush into it. Say yes if you want but wait for a while to marry. If you are scared then dont do it... You want to make sure it is the right decision before jumping in to something you might later regret. If he loves you he will wait til you are ready and if he does not love you he wont wait and you will be able to move on with your life. I wish you the best... Trust me on this one if he is the right one for you he will love and you will not lose him by telling him you want to wait .
2007-01-24 16:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that at 19, and having known him only 6 months, it's a little too early. If you're scared about making the wrong decision, tell him, and just take your time. It doesn't mean you have to break up with him, make sure he knows you love him, just take plenty of time to make certain this is what you want.
2007-01-24 16:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by madmusician007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 6 months is too soon and 19 is too young. You both will change so much in the next 5 years. Whatever you do, listen to your gut and if it's meant to be, then it can wait a few years. I got married when I was 21 and I was still too young. It's been a long haul.
2007-01-24 16:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by My kids mom 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
marraige is a business contract. You choose in advance to love this person and help them reach their dreams and work on making each other happy for the rest of your life. It is mutual, discuss this and make sure that you will each support the others dreams and help them be achieved with love and no jealousy or selfishness. Each will make sacrifices along the way to help the other. It is a choice you make and work at. It isn't a wish for a dream come true fairy tale. It isn't too soon. You just need to snap up and make your choice. Love isn't magic, it is work, and it can be fun, happy work. REady?
2007-01-24 16:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by mspriveye 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well me and husband got married after 10 months of knowing each other. Been happily married 16 yrs now. My parents got married after only knowing each other 5 months but that was 50 yrs ago.
2007-01-24 16:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by lauren l 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes, it's way too soon! It's not pre-wedding jitters. It's your logic kicking in after the rush of being engaged.
2007-01-24 16:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋