i'm 42 years old. My husband handles all the money. He gives me $100.00 to $160.00 a week to buy groceries and anything else I need. I've been a stay at home mom for 22 Years. My husband tells me I don't need a lawyer. He said he would treat me fairly. I don't believe him because he cheated on me. Someone please help!
2007-01-24 15:50:25 · 16 answers · asked by dvanert38 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1st You can't afford not to have a lawyer. 2nd you're not the first X to be You can find an attorney who will wait to be paid.
2007-01-24 15:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You you have any other family, like sisters/brothers/aunts/friends would you be able to help you out? Do you have a pre-nuptial agreement? I think you are going to need a lawyer, regardless or not if he said he will be fair with you, especially if you have children. A lawyer is best in the situation, even if it is going to be expensive. You might want to ask your family to help you out. Since he makes all the money, you are at an unfair advantage. You might end up with the kids and child support payments, and nothing else. Many women who are divorced often end up in more destitute situations then men because they often have children, especially if they were stay at home moms. It is harder to find a job and harder to support your children. It is important to get a lawyer so you can have a fair chance of making sure you are somewhat . . well off after the divorce. It also depends on who filed for divorce . . .I am sorry I couldn't be of more help to you. Even if you can't find a lawyer, maybe even just meeting with one and just going through your options will help make the situation go a little smoother (even though most sessions do cost money).
2007-01-24 16:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is - you can't afford to NOT go to a lawyer. A one hour consultation with a good lawyer may cost about $150. From that appointment you should find out what the lawyer thinks your chances are to get money UP FRONT from your husband to cover your anticipated legal expenses. It is not uncommon for the party who is earning the money to have to give the other party $5000-$10,000 to cover the legal expenses and to allow that party to get a lawyer.
In such a long marriage and because you have not worked outside the home you will get alimony - the fight will be over how much and for how long. How much depends on what expenses you are able to show and what chances you have for employment. How long depends on a number of factors but after 22 years I would expect you would get it for life.
If you have no idea about family finances you need a lawyer who is experienced in getting information from banks, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc so that you get your full share.
He will NOT treat you fairly. Remember he swore to be faithful and to stay married for life - he blew that didn't he. Don't trust him now - when it comes to money people get greedy and they lie. Get a lawyer who will protect your interests.
Good Luck
2007-01-24 16:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job and don't sign anything until you can get your own lawyer.. convince your hubby that you want to work it out and then... save save save... just remember 50 percent of what you and him have is yours...including savings checking businesses possessions and retirements... and if you have children under the age of 18 you are to receive child support.. ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TRUST YOUR HUSBAND...
go in and talk to a lawyer.. consultation is free.. and if you and your hubby have alot of money the lawyer just might let you pay him after the divorce is final when you get your half of everything ... and maybe you might even get spousal support since you haven't' worked in a while...
2007-01-24 16:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to legal aide and save some money for it... You may need to find some kind of employment to pay for it... You do need a lawyer and dont let him lie to you about this. He will get one if you want a divorce trust me! Why do you want out of the marriage anyway? Why are you divorcing?
2007-01-24 16:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't necessarily need a lawyer to do your divorce. I am 46 years old and have done this 3 times. You can email me and I can tell you where to start and how to do this. My email address is jerdogg06@netzero.com. I would be happy to help you.
2007-01-24 16:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by LM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Def. call around your town and see if you can find a lawyer that will bill you, or even do something pro-bono.. some lawyers will work out a good deal. Just be sure to ask around!!!
2007-01-24 15:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by charmedangel51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to at least consult with a lawyer one time and get some advice,,,,,dont trust ur husband
2007-01-24 16:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to a lawyer. If the lawyer does his job right, his fee will come from husband's pocket, not yours.
2007-01-24 16:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever believe someone will be fair to you in a divorce. You can(and should) get legal help. Contact legal aid, and make sure to file an affidavit of indigency.
2007-01-24 16:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋