I used to date this girl that was bisexual. I wasn't dating her for that reason, so please don't start. Anyway, she had this notion that she should be allowed to date a guy and a girl at the same time and that both should just accept it. She also thought that would still be considered monogamy. I said that if she wanted to do that, I should be able to date two girls at the same time. She thought that was wrong because I already had a girlfriend (her).
We are no longer together, but I never could figure how dating two people could be considered monogamous just because they were different genders.
2007-01-24 15:48:16 · 17 answers · asked by Brian W 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Because she didn't put the same value on her relationship with a girl as she did her relationship with you. In other words, another girl would be a threat to her but another girl would not be a threat to you.
Glad you moved on, she's not worth your time.
2007-01-24 16:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, who's to say it's right or wrong?
You can only accept your own answer, and if you believe in what you are understanding, then it should be right - for you.
Others may not agree with you; however, that's okay. People have different beliefs about all things.
I can only guess your questioning because you haven't really closed that relationship. I would suggest you meet with this person one more time, and explain your feelings. once you have closure, you will stop asking yourself ... further more .. doubting what's acceptable and what's not.
good luck
bga
2007-01-24 16:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by bga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't date bisexuals for that same reason. I don't understand how they can get off thinking that if they date a male and a female at the same time that that is not cheating. I am totally on your side and am glad that you didn't stick around.
2007-01-25 03:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By definition it's not monogamous. If she wants to be polyamourous, fine, but that's what it is. Also, she needs to find two people who are ok with that arrangement. I know full well I wouldn't be if I were dating a bi guy.
2007-01-24 16:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get what you mean, and no, it's not right.
She must be selfish, because you can't be with someone, and then try and get into a relationship with someone else, regardless of gender. Some people don't understand the concept ...
2007-01-24 16:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Marki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can't and she was wrong. On a further note, if you two woulda had a threesome, it still wolda been considered non-monogamous.
2007-01-24 15:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you are dating each other exclusively or you (both) aren't.
She was trying to have it both ways, dating more than one person, requiring you to date only her.
2007-01-24 16:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at my school A LOT of girls do that. (we have a lot of bi people here) and some of there boyfriends were okay with it some wern't. personally I think if you gf has two gfs/bfs then you should be allowed too.
2007-01-24 15:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being bisexual should'nt mean enjoying both worlds at the same time when it comes to love!
2007-01-24 16:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Arsalan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's double standards. Good thing you didn't marry her!! She might have wanted to be married to a girl too...
2007-01-24 15:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋