I met this guy on New Years Eve 2006 and we've been dating since, but I don't feel chemistry between us. I'm happy seeing him a couple of times a week, (as we just met each other) but he always wants to meet and he said he was in love with me. I felt guilty because I don't feel the same way about him. He asked me if I wanted to go out during the day tomorrow but I had already made plans so I had to decline. He looked a bit angry and immediately called his boss saying he was coming to work. I felt pressured and told him I was sorry but I didn't feel a connection between us and just wanted to be friends. I need advice, was I too hasty in this case? He asked me how I could know a relationship isn't going to work and the truth is I don't know 100 percent, but my gut tells me that we're not a match.
2007-01-24 15:38:44 · 24 answers · asked by M N 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Always follow your instincts. Chemistry doesn't develop--either it's there or it's not. It's obviously not. You like him as a friend, but not romantically. You never know if a relationship is going to work out 100%, but you do know yourself well enough to know when a relationship is going to work out 0%. Tell him to take it or leave it, and if he has a problem with that, don't spend anymore time with him.
2007-01-24 15:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by J-Dawn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be honest with him about your feelings, however you see fit to confront the situation. You will only end up hurting him if he thinks he has a chance with you, and wasting your time, if you think you could meet someone else.
I am always leary of a guy who says he's in love with me. Love takes months...years to really truly develop between two people. Lust is a different issue. Lust is based solely on a physical attraction, and you want to be sure that maybe he just doesn't "lust" you.
Nowadays you have to be so careful who you give your phone number or address out to a guy, because there are so many unstable people around. You should always meet someone in a coffee shop or coffee bar on your first date, until you are sure you really like each other. It's safer that way.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-24 23:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
looks like hes the one being hasty. if you don't feel chemistry between the two of you by now then you should just move on. if you gut says your not a match then your not
2007-01-24 23:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ketra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthiness comes from the gut not the facts. Besides if he's telling you he's in love after a few weeks you're probably better off to run.
2007-01-24 23:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No always go with what you feel. I learned this the hard way. When your gut is telling you that something isn't right. Listen. You did the right thing.
2007-01-24 23:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by ravensongblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow you gut . i was with a guy for a year and like you no connection . couldn't go further with relationship. you got rid of him now look for Mr right . i did and i found Mr right for me good luck
2007-01-24 23:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by inna357 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't. IF chemistry isn't there, you can't MAKE it be there. It's best to be upfront with him and try to spare his feelings-he will be upset but it is better now than later. If he can't be friends, then let him go-he will find his way.
2007-01-24 23:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the right choice. He is more serious about you than you are about him. He is beyond the "just friends" stage. That's not going to work for him.
2007-01-24 23:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Takes me about 15 secs to know if the chemistry is there. If it isn't there, nothin is there.
Don't let him trip on you.
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2007-01-24 23:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by cyclgrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your gut tells you, then you're probably not a match.
2007-01-24 23:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by ╦╩╔╩╦ O.J. ╔╩╦╠═ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋