i am suppose to go back to work on cruise ship in march my baby will 7 months then will she remember me?

Question

i have to leave so my mom will keep her but will she misses me? will she be affected psycologically? i am worried i'll be gone for 4 months.

Answer 1

What you propose to do will be psychologically devastating to your child - akin to experiencing your death. She will then bond to your mom as a second mother. You will then come back and take her from this mother?

What you are proposing is so damaging she will never ever psychologically recover. Never. She will always have an empty hole inside because her mother abandoned her. She will always feel unlovable, no matter how much status she gains, no matter how much self-talk she can do to explain to herself why you didn't mean it or why it's not a reflection on her.

Lots of people will tell you it's okay, cause people are in to doing what pleases them and not being concerned about their kids.

Since you are concerned about your child, you should face the facts that this will destroy your child emotionally. But you already knew that, didn't you?

Answer 2

I really believe your child will forget you, or will really have a hard time getting close to you again. Thats a long time to leave your child and once it starts saying words, it may confuse your mom to be her mommy. Maybe find new work, how can you leave her for that long? I can't leave my 4 month old for a night without missing her like crazy, I could never imagine leaving her for someone else to raise for 4 months. I know you have to work but maybe think of a new career, your child is to young to understand your absence, and it might be hard for her to adjust to you not being around, harder on her then you. Think twice before taking off for 4 months, you will miss out on 4 months of your childs life, the most important time in a babies life, you can't get this time back.

Answer 3

yes your baby will remember you. she will have a close bond with her grandma but girl go to work and relax. You will miss her very much and probably cry but the baby will handle and deal with it fine and no psycological problems. If your really going to dread it the 4 months you should really try to find a more normal job with 8 to twelve hours a day and weekends off.
Don't put your family in a bind and just quit your job without a back up job.

Answer 4

That's such a long time to leave a child at any age,but especially now,you will miss so many milestones and it's something you will never get back.Is a career change at all possible for you?I don't mean to sound rude but as a mother myself of two young children,I just couldn't imagine being away from them and missing all their firsts!

Answer 5

I think that as long as grandma shows the baby pictures of you and you can call home to let the baby hear your voice, you should be fine. Of course, when you come back you will have to transition back into the mother role since your mom will be her primary care giver. But it usually doesn't take babies that long to warm up to you again and soon it will seem like you never left :-) Also, another good thing is that she will still be a 'baby' and babies don't even really develop short term memory until around 8 months old, and then long term memory doesn't even really kick in until sometime after their first year.

Answer 6

I doubt your baby will forget you, but it may take a while for her to warm up to you, since your face will look less familiar than the faces she sees each day. So much development occurs in the first year, it's crazy to fathom.

My question is, how will you survive, not seeing your little girl?! My baby girl is 8 months old right now and I could never have done it. However, I know it's not always that easy when you have to work.

Best of luck! She'll love you forever regardless. :)

Answer 7

I would personally be looking for a new line of work, rather than leave my baby for that long. I may have to be away for work for a week and am already having anxiety over it. 4 months is a long time, and it is hard to say whether or not she will remember you.

Answer 8

Well, she is awful young to be away from you for so long. She might have a hard time remembering you when you come back but maybe your mom can show her pictures of you and if you talk to her on the phone that will help.

Answer 9

I wouldnt advise this at all. You can NEVER get that time back with her and I think that you will regret it if you do later on. Why not find another job, your child will only be this age once.

Answer 10

The baby won't miss ya. Momma will though.