We have been married over eight years, but he has never taken me anywhere or made time for me. He does not bother to even show me affection. He told me that I am lazy even though I keep the house very clean and watch his emotionally disturbed daughter by another marriage that I have taken under my wing like she is my own. He comes home to hot home cooked meals. I am a really good cook. I treat her like my own. He never has any compassion for me when I am sick and avoids me whenever he gets a day off. I am still attractive, but he oggles every female he can in my presence. I am so tired of this but I want my marriage to work because I have invested so much time, money, effort and I really love my husband and step daughter. I have stood by him when he was very ill and through so much, I just don't know how to get my needs met? It seems not matter what I do I just can't please him. No matter how good I look, no matter how hard I work! No matter how much I contribute! What should I do?
2007-01-24 15:26:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow!!!! there is nothing you can do. Give it up!!! lets just see how long he can go without you following him around like a puppy dog, and feeding his ego all day??? controlling emotionally empty, women hater .........
I will take you out to the movies,,,,,,,, screw him, you should call your friends up and don't make his stinking dinner, I bet he has small testes? and they are probably hollow just like his soul? He is making you raise his daughter, providing her with the care He couldn't and can never give not her or you , why do you think she got that way??? because she is emotionally starved.That is how you will end up, He won't even be intimate either,,,,,,,, what is in it for YOU???????????
2007-01-24 15:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a divorce because you will be saying this in ten years he is very controlling and not in love with you. He needed someone to look after his castle and his daughter and thats exactly what your doing your wasting your own happiness for nothing move on and look after someone who deserves it like you do. He is selfish and direspectful and no doubt gives his attention and time to someone else. You deserve love and your not going to find it with him. Dont even feel guilty for leaving you can always have a relation ship with his daughter and it is him that desroyed your relationship not you. SP being his lapdaog and his sucker tell him to male his own dinner for a while see how he feels about that. Start thinking about yourself obviously he doesnt so look after yourself hun and wake up and smell the coffee. He is a self centered controlling ***.....e
2007-01-24 15:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by englishgal11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the time with him and see what happens... Why does he not take you anywhere??? Is he open to marriage counseling and help... Seems to me he is mentally abusive to you and this is not good at all.... I think you need to leave and seperate for a while and if there is not hope for you marriage then divorce and move on with your life. Stop being a victim here is all I am saying. I wish you the best.
2007-01-24 15:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel real sorry for you. How can you love or respect someone who shows you nothing. We all need to feel needed and appreciated. I cannot understand how you manage to go on day after day. My heart just wants to reach out to you and treat you like one of my hurting children. I think you should tell you husband that you need to talk and be up front and honest. You do not deserve to be treated like a house keeper but like a loving and appreciated wife and if he isn't approachable to change then I would get out and move on. You deserve better.
God be with you ~~~~Jill
2007-01-24 15:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stop doing all of the wonderful things that you do. don't make him dinner, let the dishes go...make him realize all that you do for him. go out, and don't be home when he gets there. Maybe if you treat him how he treats you, he may realize what he has. If not, leave him. You deserve to be happy and have someone who will treat you better.
2007-01-24 15:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Accept that his happiness is his own responsibility. Suggest that he seek therapy so that he too can accept this reality and to work out the problems that you have. Then continue to love him and his daughter selflessly as a spouse should.
2007-01-24 15:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You, hon, should get into counseling and find out why you are so needy....When you get brave, ask him if he wishes to save this marriage, and ask him to come with you....If he doesn't, then you have your answer>>>>> the guy has a girlfriend........ You could be the most stunning lady on the planet, but if he isn't interested in you, always "cherchez la femme" ... find the woman....
2007-01-24 15:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Does he make time for his GIRLFRIEND( serious Question)
By the way the counseling thing will not save you if one of you has grown apart, Find someone who appreciates you!!!
2007-01-24 15:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still married? Have you tried counseling? At least for your self?
2007-01-24 16:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋