So yeah me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 8 months and i've gained 15 pounds. My family all make fun of me, my friends ask if im pregnant and all i do is cry. i work and go to school full time I exercise once a week but its getting to me and now I hate my life, what do i do???
2007-01-24 15:18:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ignore them. Your family and friends should not treat you that way. Ask them what they are so insecure about with themselves that they have to find fault in you to make themselves feel better.
2007-01-24 15:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: your family makes fun of you and your friends think you're pregnant -- but your boyfriend continues to love and support you, right? So you've made an excellent choice in a boyfriend, even if you have a lousy family and inconsiderate friends.
Second: fifteen pounds isn't a big deal, but if you exercise twice a week instead of once, and make some simple dietary choices (no more "partially hydrogenated" anything, and no more "enriched flour" ingredients), you'll likely drop that fifteen pounds in a month or so.
Meanwhile, if you hate your life because of fifteen pounds, you're overreacting -- but if you hate your life because you've got a mean family, inconsiderate friends and an overfull scheduled, FIX IT. Get new friends, stay away from your family until they learn to behave, and cut back to fewer hours or fewer classes. Take care of yourself, in short. Fifteen pounds is nothing compared to the family/friend/work/school stress you've described.
At least you have a boyfriend who's treating you well.
2007-01-24 23:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disipline yourself & loose the 15 pounds that ain't bad but take a break from ur family for a while if they are bringing your spirits down & make sure u are not pregnant . If he loves u that is what matters
2007-01-24 23:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are are doing whats called "emotional eating". What is it that is troubling you? What things are you anxious or fearful about? Sounds to me like the boy friend is causing some kind of stress in your life. Are you afraid you are going to loose him? What fear is connected with that relationship.A good counselor or pastor that does counseling can help you with all this. Get that taken care of and the eating will be easier to control.
Look your relatives in the eye and let them know how it makes you "feel" when they make fun of you. Tell them that you welcome some advise, but keep the criticism to them selves. You are special to God just because you belong to him. When you realize that he loves you and you don't have to work for his love than you can begin to love yourself. When you can accept yourself, faults and all, you will begin to love yourself. Once you start loving yourself you wont feel a need to be loved by others. Instead, you will feel a greater need to make others feel loved, unconditionally. Hope this helps. :)
2007-01-24 23:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the jerks & try to figure out why the sudden weight gain. It could be lots of things.... your family sure isn't helping, but you can do this on your own. Could be something that's bothering you or medical... see your dr.
2007-01-24 23:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should explain to your family and friends that you are tired of their comments and its not helping the situation. Next, if you want to lose weight, you need to up the excercising to at least 5x a week.
2007-01-24 23:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by prudentzeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it dont matter what anyone thinks about you ,it how you feel about yourself.
you need to be happy with yourself.
i was having the same problem and i'm still trying.
people who make fun of you are not right and if you are fat or skinny people will always try to find something to make their life more intresting.
2007-01-25 04:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by lilmommeranda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your pregnant..... let them all muster in their own pathetic world of drama and rumor BS. Dont let those zeros bother you sweetie :P
2007-01-24 23:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that happened to me too, i ended up having thyroid problems... u should get ur levels checked...
2007-01-24 23:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by cali_gal716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-01-25 00:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋