Every girlfriend of mine always tells me how incredibly lucky I am to have scored a man like my husband and how they'd give anything to be that lucky.He's very good looking, young, wealthy,educated,very intelligent,extremely charming with a great sense of humour.He's extremely attentive to me,always outs me first and is always completely considerate of my feelings in every way yet I still find myself looking for attention from other guys.What's wrong with me?
2007-01-24 15:17:14 · 18 answers · asked by Madison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The sex is amazing.I really do love the guy and have been like this with just about every other guy I dated but don't get why I'm like this with my husband when he's practically perfect.He gets hit on all the time and barely notices anyone but me.
2007-01-24 15:24:53 · update #1
Just because he's so wonderful doesn't mean he's the right guy for you. You should let him go so he can find someone who truly loves him.
2007-01-24 15:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds to me you like the thrill of the chase. Your husband has just made himself too accessible to you and he is no longer a challenge to you. Maybe he should pull away from you a little, perhaps start spending sometime apart from taking up different hobbies, or just not be so accommodating all the time. You should probably bring this to his attention so that he can find ways to challenge you a bit, just enough so that there is a good balance in the relationship and one person doesn't feel more like the dominant half (in this case, that would be you). You also have to be wise and realize that he can easily slip through your fingers and most likely will, if you continue to take him for granted. Give yourself a good reality-check and instead of being over confident, be grateful that you have this man. There are constantly forces that are working against you to destroy your marriage and by taking him for granted, your leaving your marriage vulnerable. It needs to be fiercely protected.
2007-01-24 16:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a low self esteem? Sometimes when we lack low self esteem we constantly look for validation from others. If you take for granted that you get validation from your husband then you will start looking for it elsewhere in the form of attention from others. It's like getting a caffeine fix or a sugar fix or something - you crave the attention, you want the attention, you need the attention.
I'm only offering this up as a possible scenario - it may not be a self esteem problem at all. But if it is, the only way to fix it is to improve your self esteem, then you will stop seeking validation in others because you will no longer need it. You will realise within yourself that your approval is enough.
Good luck :)
2007-01-24 15:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't hurt him doing some stupid things. Think how he will feel when he comes to know about your flirting.
Please control yourself and get rid of your habit. Until then don't let him know about this. attention will not last long.
Relationship lasts longer than attention. There is nothing wrong in you. but just think how you would have felt if he had something like this in his mind.
My friend, don't lose what you have, not just money- but happiness, peace of mind, secure life, love..............
By the way, you haven't mentioned how good you are? If such a person has selected you as a life partner, then you are no less good than him. May be his friends will be telling him that he is very lucky to have a wife like you.
2007-01-24 15:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Whn_I_was_in_School 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your own question: you crave attention. Some people are like that; it's not enough to be who they are, they need a constant influx of new people to pay attention to them.
It's basically an issue of insecurity. If you were secure, you'd be proud and happy with who you are, proud and happy with the person you married, and proud and happy with your life -- or if you weren't, you'd make changes until you were. As an insecure person, however, you'll only be proud and happy with these things if other people constantly tell you that you should be.
So, you recognized your husband is great -- that's why you're not slagging him here, and instead you're lamenting your inability to be satisfied with that -- because people keep telling you he is. Meanwhile, you still want attention from other people, because nobody's telling you how great YOU are. See how that works?
So you've got a great husband, but need other people to keep you convinced that you are a worthwhile human being. That's a shame.
2007-01-24 15:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh dont be so hard on yourself. I am the same way. We just like attention/validation that we could still attract a man. As long as you dont take physical action or become attached to some guy, there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-24 15:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by booboogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a slut, basically you are just never satisfied, dump your man off on one of your friends since they feel you are so lucky and go find some attention from someone else
2007-01-24 15:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You act like too much of a good thing is not enough.
Maybe he isn't good enough for you due to your high standards.
2007-01-24 15:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married the wrong guy.
2007-01-24 15:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be more then enough for you hon... If he is not then let him go and dont put him and your marriage through this anymore... You seem selfish and self centered.
2007-01-24 15:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋