fear of shaming hands,how can i come over it?

Question

i mean fear of shaking hands.the problem that when i get a little anxius about something i fear that my hands are going to shake and believing that they are!!so the result of that is that i am not so social that i was before and i am afraid to be embarrased in front of people!!And my bigest problem is that i want to be an actor!!i am closing to myself and my dreams for my job seem to fade away day to day....

thank you for your answers!!

Answer 1

I assume you mean a fear of "shaking" hands, not "shaming" them so I will answer the shaking hands question (if I am wrong about that part, just disregard).
Although this might be an aspect of social phobia (which will be a bit more involved), I can give you some basic tips on how to get over a fear/phobia (like shaking hands) There is a therapy called Systematic Desensitization that is used to treat phobias. It involves creating a hierarchy of fear and learning to relax at each step. You can first start by thinking about shaking someone's hand (probably a low-anxiety producing experience) and making yourself relax. This can be done by deep breathing and even going to your "happy place" (don't laugh, it can work). You then move up to the next step. This could be facing someone (preferably someone you know while you are still getting through the fear) like they might shake your hand and relaxing. You can then have them extend a hand while you relax. Next you could perhaps extend your hand to them while relaxing. Touch their finger, then hand, then progress until you are shaking their hand. Practice this on a few people you know first so you can get practice. Remember to breath and RELAX at each step, this is the whole point of the therapy. You CANNOT move onto the next step until you have relieved the anxiety at the previous step.
This might sound weird, but it is very succesful at treating many types of phobias.

Answer 2

Social Anxiety is the experience of fear and/or anxiety in social situations in which people think they may embarrass themselves or make a fool of themselves in some way.


Common experiences and fears relating to Social Anxiety are
Fear of embarrassing ourselves in some way
Fear that we may make a fool of ourselves in some way
Fear of doing, saying, acting the wrong way
Fear that others are scrutinizing us or judging us in a negative way
Fear of what others think of us
Feelings of inadequacy
Feelings of self-doubt
Feeling uncertain and insecure
Feelings of self consciousness when in the presence of others
Feelings of shyness
May be sensitive to the words/actions/reactions of others
Feel uncertain as to how to act or be around others
Self-chastisement, judging ourselves as being less then others e.g.. judge what we do as being not good enough, thinking our self as stupid

Other

As a result of these feelings, many people find that they start to avoid certain situations or endure intense anxiety in social situations. These include:

Fear of public speaking (includes making a presentation, talking to a group of people, speaking at a social occasion eg. wedding)
Fear of social occasions eg. Christmas gatherings, dinner at a restaurant, party
Fear if initiating or maintaining conversations
Fear of doing an activity in front of others eg. photocopying while others wait, using the ATM machine
Fear of being watched at work
Fear of writing or signing documents in front of others
Fear of eating and/or drinking in front of others
Fear of being in a crowd
Fear of a general social/ group situation where the fear is others will watch or judge us.
Fear of indirect evaluation by others
Fear of shaking hands


You may want to read some books on social anxiety maybe they can help you find out what you can do to overcome it.

Answer 3

Stick your dirty little hand out and shake. there no more or less.