do u think this will affect the relationship??

Question

i am jst married abt 4mths back..im 22 and my hubbi is 23years old. i used to have a number of ex boyfriends,compared to my hubby b4 marriage.. Do u think this will somehow affect my marriage life in future? Example: If we were to have a heated up conversations/argument.. do u think men have a habit to dig up the past and compare??(For ur info: i previously broke up with my hubbi wen we were in the dating stage to get along with his friend whom i thought was the right one for me.) But later i realised tat i was wrong and somehow patched up things with my hubbi and we got married years later..

Answer 1

I think you both need to find out what true love is and isn't. Sit down together and read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. Love isn't boastful or proud and always believes in the positive. This love is such that it will gladly give its own life to save the life of another. If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place, but something else. It says of faith, hope and love that love is the greatest. It is this kind of love that has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years.

If you and your husband don't have it this way, you need to work together to develop it in your lives. Once it is there, the past doesn't matter because Jesus said that when He forgives our sins, He removes them as far as the east is from the west into the sea of forgetfulness (He doesn't remember them any more.). If Jesus has forgiven the past, then who are we to keep digging it up? I think that if you practice love the way Jesus does, you won't have to fear anything in the past and your husband, if he is practicing love like Jesus, won't bring anything up from the past. Besides, you can't change what has happened in the past anyway, no matter how much you would want to, therefore why dwell on it? It is over and done with and you need to move on. We all have things in the past that we aren't proud of, but that doesn't mean we should fear them or allow them to run our lives. Learn from past mistakes and then go onward and upward.