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My husband uses and abuses me then.
By the way, sorry about my spelling, I'm brazilian and english is not my mother language

2007-01-24 15:04:04 · 8 answers · asked by katanasan81 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Okay...you're serious. There is hope but he's going to have to really want to change. Addiction is a hard thing to overcome (been there myself) but it's worth it. You will need help as well if he succeeds because he won't be the same person afterwards. He will have to change his entire way of life to beat this! God bless and good luck to you both!

2007-01-24 15:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0 0

And my Portuguese is not very good..... your English is pretty good, actually

Having lived with a true addict of just about everything, I can tell you first hand that addicts are already in a relationship --- it just isn't, nor will it ever be with you or any lady....Crack, alcohol, script drugs, sex, computer porn, it is all the same --- these poor people have demons in their heads, and it has nothing to do with you... they have a personality defect, and for the most part, addictions are just not very successfully treated.... even an alcoholic that has been thru treatment, joined AA even years later will admit that he is still addicted to it, even if he hasn't had a drink for years and years, and years.... You cannot change a personality defect... it's like saying to some one "don't be tall". Some learn to handle it, and stay away from it, whatever the addiction is, but it is always, always, "en eternadad" in their mind. And crack is particularly hard on arteries, the heart, brain tissue... one really nasty addiction.

Is there recovery? Meaning will you ever really see that person who is so swamped by this addiction??? no, hon, not really.

2007-01-24 15:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0 0

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2016-10-16 01:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Get out of the situation and go back when he's been clean at least a year. You will need to remove yourself from the situation, so that you will adctually be able to see and realize whats going on, if you stay your only helping the situation. Althougth I realize you are trying to help, he must remove himself from playgrounds and playmates, and anything that triggers him form wantting to do it. Sorry but you probably fall into one of those. You can beg and plead all you want he wont change without intervenrtion, get help now before its too late.
God speed and be with you and yours.
I will pray for both or your recovery!

2007-01-24 15:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpeasmum 4 · 0 0

well- my mother was an alcololic, and she never overcame her addiction, and my sister was a crack addict, and she has been clean for about 6 months, after years of addiction. i am her only surviving family, and i had to stop helping her . i was an enabler-if she was hungry and broke, i would buy her food. i helped cover her bills, etc. i finally had to pull away from her and let life get real tough before she woke up to what she was doing. once she realized that she would be homeless and hungry if she continued, she decided that staying straight and having me in her life to help her start over was better. i wish you the best with this problem .its tough, but not impossible

2007-01-24 15:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0 0

there is recovery if the person wants that and some good support groups you can find in your local phone book. If he uses it and abuses you though, you should think seriously about a divorce unless he does seek counseling and makes a real effort to quit that.
if he doesn't stop, you can expect him to waste money on the drugs and even in a worst case scene, lose your car and even house if he is picked up with cocaine on him. check out the site I listed below for more information on abuse.

2007-01-24 15:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0 0

Are you co dependent? your husband can recover only if he chooses too. but you will be scarred if you don't seek help to
save yourself from the emotional roller coaster ride that a abuser will take you on. in other words save yourself get help for you.

2007-01-24 15:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0 0

Get OUT!!!! Run to your neighborhood police headquarters and hang out there for a decade!
YIKES woman! Run for your life! Literally. There is hope for his addiction, but not for you to help him with it.
Best of luck.

2007-01-24 15:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica E 2 · 0 0

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