Ok there is this boy lets call him Bob and he called my house! Bob is really werid and he used to have a crush on me now am in high school and can't belive he still has my number he asked me to go on a date and i said no i am busy! I don't want to call back i am sick and i was taking a nap and my mom answer the phone and she told me to call him back!
I don't wanna to call back!
2007-01-24 14:49:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
he told me he liked me in middle school now am in high school!!!!
2007-01-24 15:18:18 · update #1
Don't call him. He will get your answers. And don't do anythings in pressure....
2007-01-24 15:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by @rrsu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling pressured. Really take a clear-headed moment and fix in your mind what this situation makes you feel like. Promise yourself to always remember this feeling so that if you ever feel it again, and you will, you'll have a head start at responding to it in a graceful, satisfying way. As soon as you feel this kind of pressure, get a grip on the nervous way it makes you feel. Then, think sensibly about it. And, then, respond. Respond with clarity. Be clear about your feelings. Be blunt, not rude. RESOLVE the problem promptly, don't hide from it or avoid it. In this situation, I'd call the boy back, talk in a friendly way for a few minutes, treat him decently as you would want to be treated, and then let him know that you aren't interested in a friendship with him right now. You DON"T have to give reasons. Just be very courteous and matter-of-fact. Then, I'd let my mother know that it's impolite of her to interfer with your social phone contacts related to telling anyone whether you will or will not return calls. That is not her right to say that. Would your mother like it if you answered her phone calls and told everyone that she would definately be calling them back after five that night?
2007-01-24 23:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not say yes to him? Some of the best dates I had were ones I might have concidered saying no to. You might enjoy yourself, or find out you really like being around him, him being quirky or not. The heauty of dating is it gives you a chance ot sample as much of the people around you as you can, and it gives you a chance ot find out what you really like in a person.
But if you choose to tell him no. Be direct, tell him you just don't think of him in that way, but that you are glad that he called to ask. This does two things. It tells him you aren't interested, but at the same time, it lets him know that working up the nerve to call is respected by you, and you understand how difficult it might have been.
Rejection can be a lousy thing, and anything a person can do to lessen that shock is truly a kind thing to do. That, and by being kind, and recognizing how difficult it was, maybe it'll be easier for him the next time he does ask someone. No pressure here, but your answer to him at his age, can have repercussions on him for years to come, depending on how he thinks and feels. So just be kind, and honest.
2007-01-24 23:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude to not want to, it is perfectly human. However you need to call the poor boy back and let him know up front that you aren't interested in dating him. Now is really a good time to do it as you can use your illness as an excuse to get off of the phone.
2007-01-24 22:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by IamBatman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would do both yourself and "Bob" a favor by calling him and being honest - tell him you're not interested in dating him. You don't have to be mean about it, just be direct. That way, he will not have misplaced hope because you put him off with excuses instead of being clear.
I know it's not an easy thing to do, but it's the best thing to do.
2007-01-24 22:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by milomax 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be best if you called him back but its not necessary. You can simply explain that you were ill the next time you see him at school. Let him down easy and solo dont do it with a group of his or your friends around. Be honest and clear to him, he should catch on and let you be.
2007-01-24 23:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by nyoo1578 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him back. You should let the guy know, in as nice a way as possible, that you are not interested. Don't be rude about it, just be honest. Saying you're busy just leads him to think he should try again later.
2007-01-24 22:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by Brian W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not rude. It IS wierd for him to just call you up and ask you out just out of the blue. But, it could make for an interesting night. lol Call him back and say yes, but only as friends and you want to make it a double and have a couple of friends go with. He sounds like a nutjob, so just go and have a laugh.
2007-01-24 22:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by ... 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be respectful,call him back and tell him you are not interested or you can simply not call back. He would get the message.
2007-01-24 22:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its not rude of you. Its rude of Bob!
But if you end up calling Bob, just politely tell him to go away.
2007-01-24 22:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Fitany 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋