I'm bi,I didn't come out until I was 35,then,nobody believed me,even though I dated only women for 2 years,lol. I don't know why everyone feels the need to label themselves as something,gay,straight,bi,whatever. I mean who any adult does in the privacy of their own bedrooms,(being consentual adult sexual behaviors,) is their own business,and NOBODY elses'! Just wondered if anyone else felt this way.
2007-01-24 14:47:33 · 7 answers · asked by dragonfly 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I agree that people are to quick to label themselves. We live in a world where everything is labeled so it Can be divided and treated accordingly. I consider myself lesbian, but I disagree w/ the term and w/ the stereotypes associated. I label myself that way b/c that's the group I most closely associate. However I have had a distinct heterosexual experiences - so technically I'm bi. I believe everyones a little gay (regardless of if they act on it or not) we are human, we are sexual. I agree w/ Dr. Alfred Kinsey. He created a scale, from 0-6, 0= completely straight and 6= completely homosexual. everything in between is bi. You're right everyone has a right to privacy, who you sleep w/ is your business-- suck though that people can;'t be open and honest about who they are b/c they are subject to ridicule of others. I say whatever floats your boat!
2007-01-24 19:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by J.Brown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the book Beloved by Toni Morrison there is a quote that says "Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined". I prefer to define myself FOR other people lest I be labelled BY others and stuck into a box where I don't feel like I particularly belong. When it comes down to how I feel about myself, I always prefer the category "Other" because I don't fit any stereotypes. I detest that people rely on pre-conceived notions dictated by the labels placed on individuals.
I agree that what happens in the privacy of one's bedroom is, for the most part, nobody's business. However it is helpful to let potential mates know your sexual affiliation. Otherwise you won't have any "business" happening in the bedroom. ;)
2007-01-25 02:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Zephyr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever consider that your idea of "labeling" is inaccurate? Many seem to think that placing a "label" on someone or something is forcing them to act in a preconceived manner. It isn't. If we were to remove the "labels" from the streets, how would you find your way around? How would you determine what is in the can on your pantry shelves? A "label" is a guide, nothing more or less. It helps you find what you are looking for and others to find you.
2007-01-24 22:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the labels we apply are a best fit, they're not definitive. We use them because we (humans) are behaviourally tribal and enjoy identifying similar traits with others.
As for does it matter? No, of course it doesn't and it should certainly be no one else's business as long as all those activities going on in the bedroom are, as you say, consensual.
2007-01-24 23:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. How does who/what you do at night effect who you are during the day? There are just so many preconceived ideas that come with "nametags". It's not fair, and its not true!
2007-01-24 20:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by D4gotten1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is no ones business what you or anyone else does in their home. why you folks or anyone else put labels on one another is beyond me.
2007-01-25 09:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋