my wife has lost her sex drive.?

Question

would it help if she took viagra.can anything help.

Answer 1

It could very well be you. Are you a generous lover or are you all about yourself? Do you listen to her when she tries to talk to you about it, or do you ignore her becuase you can't discuss that? I had that happen in my marriage. I got sick of pretending to be happy with him, so I stopped altogether. The last time our anniversary rolled around, he tried to but I flat out refused. Who wants disappointment? That, and he was abusive. If a man acts like life is all about him and that includes the bedroom, it's not going to turn her on at all.

Answer 2

I`m sorry.. that is awful. That can make anyone feel rejected and lonely. There are a few options: 1. Sometimes a woman's hormones or thyroid may be out of balance, causing a decrease in libido. Also, some medications have an negative effect on the sex drive. A general medical checkup can locate such problems if they are in evidence. Make sure your wife tells her doctor about her decreased sex drive, and see if he can prescribe alternative medications to the ones she may be taking. Step 2 Do the dishes. Many times, a woman's sex drive is out of sorts simply because she is tired. If she is constantly cleaning the house and taking care of everyone else, she will be exhausted by the end of the day. It's hard to feel sexy after you've been at work all day, only to get home and be attacked by dirty dishes and other housework. Helping out as much as you can around the house will not only show how much you care, but will help your wife feel healthier and more sexual. Step 3 Go on a date. Choose a time and make arrangements for the kids. Make sure your wife can relax and take her time getting ready, then take her to a nice, quiet restaurant. It should be someplace date-friendly, with no screaming children around to disturb the moment. Let her relax and enjoy her dinner. Ask her questions about her day (and listen to her answers). Taking your wife out lets her know she is loved and appreciated. The average woman will not want to have sex with someone by whom she does not feel loved and appreciated. Step 4Compliment her. A woman will not want be naked around a man, let alone have sex with him, if she feels uncomfortable with her body. Complimenting the way she looks will let her know that you like to look at her body and that there is nothing wrong with it. Step 5 Keep the romance alive. Call during the day to check in, or send her flowers every now and then to let you know you're thinking about her. If she doesn't hear from you all day and then the first thing you want is sex when she walks in the door, no wonder her libido is down! Treat her like a human being and you'll get a much better response. Hope this helps.. and if it doesn`t google more options.. or talk to her and let her know how your feeling. I find it really annoying that someone said that " YOU should be more understanding" ... how would they feel if a guy was rejecting them. I wish you tons of luck. thats tough

Answer 3

There are many reasons a woman may lose her sex drive. Some are insensitive men. How is your relationship other wise? What does she get out of it? Was it dynamite to begin with? Do you compliment her? Do you think you need to sit down and talk? Lots of factors can come into play here. There could be underlying health problems, and it could be you need to be more romantic and rekindle the fire ya'll once had. How can anyone really give you an answer when there are so many loose ends, and nobody but you and her have a clue as to the answer., Think about it. Do ya'll need to talk, I think yes. And I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

First of all, does she say she has lost her sex drive, or are you saying it? Have you talked to her about it? Is she unhappy with it, or is she quite ok?

Viagra is a prescribed drug and shouldnt be taken lightly. It increases blood flow - it doesnt make you feel sexy, that comes from inside your head!

If you wife wants to do something about this herself, after talking to you, then maybe she needs to see her GP. It might depend on her age why she has no libido - e.g. she could be perimenopausal.

Other reasons for going after sex are:

Doesnt fancy you anymore.
Too tired - maybe with kids and/or work
The Pill
Other medication
Illness
Bored with life in general
Depressed
Resentful of you for some reason - maybe you don't help enough.
Wants more romance

The only way of finding out what it is wrong is to talk to her.

Answer 5

There are so many reasons why women loose their sex drives. It can be anything from recently having a baby, and consequent tiredness and general fatigue, to depression. The menopause also changes female hormones and alters libido.

I am a Mum of 5 children, and have hit menopause at 42. My husband just can't understand why I am just not interested in sex. I have told him I want to be a Nun.... Don't want nun and not interested in having nun! He can't understand me.

I have tried taking viagra just to see if it makes a difference, but it just made me feel ratty and hot...

I would suggest, without making her feel like she's abnormal! that she has a word with her GP.

Answer 6

There are many possible reasons as to why she has no drive. some people might tell you that she doesn't find you attractive to her anymore or that she has someone else on the side. Don't jump to conclusions tho because it could just be age and lack of hormones or something else such as a medical condition like diabetes so a visit to the doctor might be in order.
Hope this helps you.

Answer 7

Have you done anything to her that made her lose her sex drive. For example, emotional abuse. Physical abuse. Maybe she's not feeling you the way she used to at first because her mind is on other things right now. Some of these things would make me lose my sex drive, especially if my husband doesn't make me feel secure and or if he doesn't treat me the way women are supposed to be treated.

Answer 8

viagra is for guys!!! i have the same problem i had a baby 7 months ago and ask on here if there was anything i could take and this one woman said that she was taking supplements and her sex drive went threw the roof she asked her doc. and he said it was the msm in the suplement. so go to a suplement store that has like weight lose stuff and all that there and ask the people at the desk if there is anything there that has the chemical MSM in it thats what i'm gonna do good luck.

Answer 9

I know it must suck, but it can't last forever.

Woman are hormonal creatures and there's a chance that her libido is low for now but will skyrocket at some point. If she was ever a horny woman, then she will be able to get back to that place at some point.

You should talk to her about it and come to some sort of compromise for the time being. Perhaps manual or oral stimulation will do the trick.

Answer 10

No, viagra won't help! It may be a hormonal problem, so she should definitely speak with her doctor. If she is on hormonal contraceptives, sometimes they cause this problem and it can be easily fixed by switching brands or going off hormonal contraceptives and using something like a IUD or condoms. Other medications can also cause this problem like SSRI antidepressants, so if she is taking medications it's time to see the doctor! It may also be an emotional/mood problem, maybe she's depressed or anxious or simply not getting enough of the right kind of attention from you. Definitely talk with your wife and if she can't figure it out either encourage her to see her doctor to determine what the problem is.