Young moms?

Question

When you were pregnant, did you get dirty looks from older women? When I am out shopping I get the glance at the belly and the judgemental glance at my face. It happens all the time. I'm 18 married and pregnant...What is their problem???

Answer 1

Oh goodness girl I feel you on this. I am 21 and have a 14 month old son who is always dressed very nicely when we go somewhere. When I was pregnant if I went out in a pair of pants and a shirt with no make-up and what not I would get horrible looks from people. Just keep your head high and ignore people like that. They are just people who have nothing better to do with their time than to give evil glares and say harsh words about people they don't know anything about. It is horrible how some people treat others now a days. Girl even if I go out now with no make-up on I do look younger but not that young and I still get evil glares from others. I politely smile and go about doing what I was doing. Sometimes just by smiling back and not showing that it bothered you just kills people like that. I hate how things are but you know what as long as you know you are a good person and you will be the best mom that you can be then that is all that should matter. Go by this motto that I love so much. "Pay no mind to the negative kind" It is a great thing to live by. Beat evil with happiness. I have noticed that there are a lot of young mommy's out there that are actually better mothers than older women. Keep your head high girl, and I am sorry that you have to deal with some negative people when this should be a happy enjoyable time for you. Congrats on the baby may your family be blessed with tons of happiness

Answer 2

I don't know how you feel yet but I'm waiting for the repercussions. I am only 5 feet tall and look really young for being 26. People still think I'm in high school. I've been married 4 years and we've been together 8 but my husband does look like he's in his mid twenties (he's actually 1 1/2 years younger than me!). We've gone on vacation and out places and I've been glared at by older women. Once my husband got yelled at for being a "rapist of a little girl" that one made me laugh because we were on our way to church. And once an officer tried to take me in another state because he felt I must have been a run away with some older guy. I had to have my husband go get my ID to prove we were married. So lame. So now that we are expecting our first child I'm waiting for the hateful looks to come. I think it is hilarious because I know I'm older and I also know we are very happily married.

Answer 3

I come from a small town where honestly getting married between 18 and 21 is pretty common, i was married and i had my daughter at 18 and son at 20. I am in school my last year to become a nurse, but have the amazing luxury of not having to work because my husband makes enough money for me to stay at home. i read comments on here all the time from women who tell people get over husbands or men don't do anything and we have to raise children on our own because we as women have that instinct...i don't believe that at all. my husband is sooo great with the kids and we are amazing young talented parents. if you are mentally stable and finacly stable and think you have good support in your family what Else matters? i think some people just need to judge so much that they have nothing better to look at. if i seen someone stare at me i turned to them and said "i know isn't great in due in.... weeks" they had nothing to say and walked away. just give them something to talk about when they walk away. I know plenty of mothers who are married and married for the wrong reasons only so they don't have to be "single mothers" really they are doing more damage to their own kids and dont even realize it...so go ahead show off your beautiful belly and next time you get a nasty stare smile and wave..they wont know what to do

good luck

Answer 4

You know what? I'm 33 years old, and I will tell you this from the bottom of my heart...don't be concerned about what people think of you. I have a very young-looking face. When I was pregnant with my son, I was 21 years old, but I looked about your age! I not only got the looks, but I got the comments to go with it! I had already been married for almost 2 years before my husband and I decided to start a family, but everyone just assumed the worst, and believe me...they let me know what THEY think! Here's what I think....

If you are happy and healthy, that's all that matters. Don't worry about what other people think of you. Their opinions matter not. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I turned 20 in December, and i am now 19 weeks pregnant. But you know i really havent noticed any bad looks. Maybe i dont pay enough attention because i think its SO wonderful that im having a baby. I also look older than i am.. Most people guess me to be about 23 or so.. But still i don't think anyone should look at any young mom bad. It's what God had in your plan for you to be a young mommy, and i think it's great. Personally, i always wanted to have my children at a young age. My mom is young and i've always thought it to be fun. I encourage women to start young :) Just ignore them and congrats!!

Answer 6

I'm 18 and 3 months pregnant. My tummy is already poping out!!! I get looks and stares all the time. Yet I am not married yet. So just ignore their judgemental looks. They are ignorant for doing so. Yes we are young, but that doesn't give them the right to stare meanly towards us. Sometimes....I know it's not good but I get so mad I actually go up to them and ask "Do you have a problem" They get all scared and say no or walk away. It's actually quite funny. But I hope the best for you hun good luck. = ]]

Answer 7

Yeah I've noticed it a few times, not alot though. I'm 19, and married, and pregnant.

I wonder if maybe I look younger than I am? But still, it's not some strangers place to judge anyone, even young unmarried girls who are pregnant. That's their business.

I don't take it personally, because most people are really friendly, and of course everyyyyone asks you when your due and stuff. Waitresses, store clerks, etc. It doesn't bother me very much.

You shouldn't let it bother you either. You know that your married and happy and everything! Enjoy being pregnant!

Answer 8

a think its mostly because u either look younger or something but am not sure a think its because they think we are all out 2 get pregnant at that age and most of the mums end up a single parents or something
am 18 myself gettin married soon and pregnant with a slight bump(nearly 11weeks) but i think mostly try ignore it all because ur happily married and expecting a child its ur life at the end dont let anyone else judge u
sorry couldnt help so much with this question but i just had 2 answer it cause i have seen alot of old women do it and it annoys me lol

Answer 9

God YEs!!! I was married before i got pregnant, but i got married at 18 and people would look at me and then my hand to see if i had a wedding ring. And everyone assumed we got married because i got pregnant. I really bothered me with my first but with my 2nd, i was 21, i didnt care anymore. I have a great marriage and i'm a great mom to my 2 beautiful babies. People just like to judge. Just think about it as they just have a shitty life and marriage and they make themselves feel better by putting others down. Your very blessed and dont worry about what people think. COngrats and i hope everything goes well

Answer 10

I think many, many women IMAGINE these looks. Seriously. All the time young moms complain of being judged but they're basing this on looks. Could it be you're misinterpreting the looks. Not to say that those judgemental people aren't out there. I just don't think it is as common as you think. In fact, from my experience the women who think they are being judged are often the ones judging themselves and just assuming everyone else must be too. I was friends with a girl who had kids when she was in her early 20s and always complained of getting dirty looks. She'd say this when we were out shopping together and I never once saw what she was talking about. I think it is very likely that you are not getting the looks you think you are.

Even if you are..who cares? Do you really care what these strangers think? I'm 32. Last year I traveled across country with my two kids who were 5 & 2 at the time. But I look very young for my age. I get mistaken for a high school kid all the time. So, we're in an airport store and I'm weaing jeans, a hoodie and my converse shoes. My hair was in pig tails because it makes it easier for travel. The lady at the register kept looking at me funny. I wasn't sure why. I took the kids over to pay for our purchases and she says, "Are these handsome boys yours?" I said they were. She says, "You certainly don't look old enough to have two kids." I told her I was 31. She was astonished and said it must be terrific to look so young. Then she said she remembers when she looked younger for her age and I should enjoy it. Now, she had been looking at me funny but it wasn't a dirty or glaring look and I chose not to take it in a negative way. Then she ended up complimenting me. Some people may be looking at you and thinking maybe you're older and just look young. Maybe they are glaring at you because they're jealous that you look so young for your age.

Unless you actually talk to these people and they are actually rude to your face then I wouldn't worry about it. Just go on about your business. You can't know what those people are really thinking just as they can't know the full details of your situation.