My ex-husband and his girlfriend are expecting a baby in 8 weeks. My son (7 years old) just told me this news tonight and my daughter (5 years old) said something about it last night to my boyfriend. How is a new baby in their dad's life going to affect my children?
2007-01-24 14:37:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The same thing happened to me. I was lucky when we divorced. It was a peaceful divorce, even though we did have our moments in marrage and after. My ex-husband & I talked then his wife, me & the ex. We finally agreed on "guidelines" to where everyone including my kids were happy with. I had to remember that it isn't any of my business on there child. As long as my children were included on taking care of the baby, they were just fine.
Your children might feel left out in the beginning. That is why talking to them and explaining the good with the bad, they will be going through. The feelings they might feel. So handle it as it comes along. It will end good. It may not be over night but it will come. My family and his, get along good. (We don't do lunch or anything). The children when younger, had play dates with each other, outside of his visitation. You keep it together they will too.
Handel things calmly.
2007-01-24 15:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Neese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it will be an okay things as okay as it can get anyway. If you seem alright your children will be alright. It will teach them to love something that is not theirs and that can only be good. I don't have any experience in this so I really do not know. But you asking says you are a wonderful mom and I am sure your children will be fine with it. Keep up the good work!
2007-01-24 14:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this will affect your children but children are resiliant and they will learn to adjust and accept it over time and they will love their new half brother or sister. Think about this if you get married again and have another child with someone else then just their dad they will adapt wont they and wouldnt you want them to love and accept the baby?
2007-01-24 14:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you and their father handle it.
I would tell them that Daddy & _______ are getting ready to have add a baby to their family....it won't change how Daddy feels about you but things will be changing.
Talk to your ex and explain how important it is to make sure your son and daughter feel secure about this new occurance in their lives.
If you behave as though this is normal....so will they.
2007-01-24 14:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you know about your ex husband and his girlfriend.
what will give your the reassurance that they will treat your kids (his kids) the same with the new baby?
things will change definitely, but you have the choice to continue letting your kids to see their father or not.
pretty sure their father will still be the same to your kids, so don't worry too much.
cheers.
2007-01-24 14:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by ricodzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is affecting you, the kids will be fine.......God bless ya
2007-01-24 14:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll have a new brother or sister.
2007-01-24 14:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by DeeLovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋