Is their a way of not falling in love or having a crush??? Idon't like having crushes b/c sometimes all you think about is your crush and love is worst I don't like it when someone has control over me...when you fall in love you're out of control????especially your thoughts....
2007-01-24 14:35:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
man I talking about falling in love with chicks.....this real cutie chick damn it...,!!!!
2007-01-24 14:46:35 · update #1
Nope....the way I look at it is you can't pick and choose who you fall in love with. You can't make yourself fall in love with someone and you can't make yourself not fall in love with someone. About the only way would be to become somewhat of a hermit where you are never around people.
2007-01-24 14:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really control your feelings for someone, so there's no simple formula. I know - I've had more than my share of crushes.
It's not a bad thing to be attracted to the opposite gender - It just means that you're normal. It's only a problem when a certain person fills your every waking thought & you're so preoccupied that you neglect your responsibilities.
In matters of the heart, the best thing you can do is to keep a clear head. Keep in mind that strong feelings for someone do not equal love. You may be experiencing infatuation or just plain lust.
If you're dating someone, it's important that you give each other plenty of space. If your partner is jealous of everyone & everything else or she wants to keep you on a short leash, watch out! She's a control freak & she'll only bring you heartache in the end. (Yes, ladies, I know that there are also possessive & controlling guys.) You're better off without someone like that.
There's no simple answer to your questions, but I hope this helps.
2007-01-24 15:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All too recently I've been through this. Think about it:
It's called a "crush" because that's what it does to you.
After having been through it, here's what I can tell you.
Just the words used to describe it, "fall" in love should tell you
something. Why does love even have to involve falling?
Why can't we "love" somebody standing upright, or
holding our heads up high?
Love is strong, and a real kind should not make you weak.
One way to stop crushes ahead of time is to be more choosy
about what kind of woman you truly want.
The woman that loves what you love, hates what you hate,
likes and dislikes the same things as you,
that is the one you want.
The woman who does any thing she can to be around you, listen
to you, etc. that is the woman you don't want to let go of.
It doesn't matter how "needy, clingy,etc." any one else says
she is, you don't want to let her go.
There's a reason why the word "settling" is in the phrase
"settling down." That is what you're doing: settling.
You should never settle for less than a woman that wants and
loves you no matter what. Look only for that.
2007-01-24 15:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Bubba 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's your age? If you're under 18 it's more than likely you'll find people who have a crush on you. But it's just like a crush on a movie star in that they accept the thrill of being noticed and then they move on to other things. If you're under 18 then it's best that you study hard so that your future dreams come true.
Young people have strong hormones and sometimes they can get out of control. So "someone" doesn't have control over you" your own hormones make you get out of control and if you can't control that then sure you are out of control.
The old comment was "take a cold shower" and get involved in sports and living your life. If crushes bother you then eliminate them until you can control them. They say if a man can't control his urges then he gets nowhere in life. So I'd say you have the right idea, it's just that you need to find other interests to take your mind off of that.
2007-01-24 15:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love is a wonderful thing. I don't believe there is a differentiation between who you fall in love with.Love is a part of life that starts to define who we are. It is when we learn how to trust another human being, share feelings and learn to compromise for the sake of love. Sometimes it doesn't work out. We should not feel that it is failure--only a learning experience, and the beginning for that true love that WILL come our way.
2007-01-24 15:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by girafflady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a few years, you might wish that you still had such intense feelings for others. Enjoy it :)
2007-01-24 15:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Golgi Body 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cultivate a critical attitude towards your crushes.
Do not let them hijack your thoughts and ruin your life.
2007-01-24 14:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes...lock yourself in a padded room ...now....
2007-01-24 14:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋