He swears it was his coworker...I don't know if I should believe him. I have never caught him cheating, and I wasn't looking for it, the page just came up as a search while I was trying to get on another site. I am very upset and don't know if I should believe him or where to go from here. He denies it and now is turning it into a trust issue. I suppose people will suggest marriage counseling or to trust my instinct, or to just trust him, but I'm not sure what to think. Any honest commentary would be appreciated.
2007-01-24 14:31:50 · 22 answers · asked by Mompoet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would ask his co-worker in pleasant conversation "So, how did it work out with finding an escort service on your trip? Did you have fun?" Play along. See what he says and make sure you watch his reaction, if his eyes look down and shift to the right, he's lying. Good luck, I hope it works out for you!
2007-01-24 14:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♫♪~♥ ME ♥~♪♫ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, been there done the same thing from it,s my coworkers it,s my frinds found it on the street and so on... He is definetly looking for whatever reason ( i learned with my husband it,s in insecure kind of thing ) he may not have gone beyond looking , but it has to stop now !!! You are in a marriage for Life get the help you can get now , otherwise your trust will go completly away and with that your marriage . You don't trust him now and he needs to earn your trust back try to work with him before you give up ,if you catch him again yuo may need to sepparate to see what you both need to do. Don,t worry could be worse you can fix this if you fix it now .But once again it was not his coworker o.k. !! ? Good luck to both of you , we all make mistakes but one is enough for this one!! Nicole ( you can also hire a private Eye ca. $300 per day)
2007-01-24 14:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be. Men on business trips get lonely. You should show support and not threaten him or split up with him over it though. Men are just different, as unfortunate as that is. If you choose to bond through this, and forgive him and just passively accept his bs you might make it to a much better level in your relationship, and he will surely think twice the next time.
But.,
You must actively try to get through these rough patches. Marriage is difficult and needs a lot of help. If this continues, or you notice your relationship deteriorating even slightly like he is distancing himself you should seek counciling. And, although you can accept his bs for this,. you should ask him to stick around town and find a different job,.... because you get lonely... dont let him off that easy sister! He abused his priveledges. Like a child.
2007-01-24 14:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not married but I have always said that I will hire a private investigator whenever I do get married for at least the first year. LOL I just simply don't trust ANYONE! Therefore I suggest you to consider that, it may help you to trust him or whatever it is that you are trying to achieve! Good luck!
2007-01-24 14:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Escorts don't work for free. Check your/his bank and credit cards to see if any large, unexplained amounts of cash were withdrawn before or during the business trip. The odds of getting a sexually transmitted disease increase dramatically when your partner is also sleeping with prostitutes. It may seem like snooping, but your health, and possibly your life, is at stake.
2007-01-24 14:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he says it's his coworker then ask his coworker. It's a weird search for a legitimate business trip no matter the person looking it up so it shouldn't hurt your husbands pride to ask. Then once you know the truth you can deal with whatever happens. Take it one step at a time but don't rush to conclusions. He could be telling the truth. But find out for yourself.
2007-01-24 14:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by flutterby 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call the co workers wife and have her ask her husband if he used an escort service on his last business trip. Oh and make sure you tell your husband you are calling her to discuss this. There is power in numbers. One of them has to be lying.
2007-01-24 14:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe get someone to look up the computer history? how long ago was this? you could ask the coworker about it. thats a hard situation, but i would find out for sure, cause hookers carry really nasty stuff. it really could be the friend, but thats soooooo not cool
2007-01-24 14:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried looking at his credit cards for any weird transactions or any money taken out of the bank that he can't account for? Try searching here first to see if money is missing.
2007-01-24 14:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that about 10% of the time it might have actually been a co-worker, but really it isn't very likely that his co-worker used his laptop to look up an escort service.
2007-01-24 14:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋