having two kids?

Question

i have a son hes almost 7 months, and i would like you have another child soon. hopefully...my husband want to wait till our sonis two but i would like them to be TWO years apart. anyways thats not my question, my question is is how hard is it raising two kids compared to one child??? serious answers only no smart a** questions please

Answer 1

My son and daughter are 23 months apart. Now that they are 4 and 2, my husband and I laugh and say that we thought very highly of our parenting skills to have them so close! Having two is a huge difference if you just focus on the logistics of it (both in car seats, not potty-trained, using bottles and sippy cups, and wanting to be held). Put all of these factors with buying groceries, going to the post office, doctor appointments, hair cuts, etc. and it can get a little overwhelming. However, would I trade it? NO!!!!!! My son is very protective and loving towards his rowdy little sister and he has always been pretty helpful. They also play well together and are hillarious! My advice is to know absolutely that you have help (mainly from dad) when you need it and make sure that you are ready to not only be pregnant (tired, sick, etc.) and have a little one that still very much needs his mommy, but to also handle them both when number 2 is not conveniently in the belly!

Answer 2

I have two children but they are far apart in age. I would recommend to wait until the baby is two before trying to get pregnant again, because your son deserves to be your only baby for a while. This is a great time to bond with him. I have seen people who have their children 11 months apart and the hardest factor was dealing with two different little personalities at the same time. When one is sleep, the other is up. When one is crying, the other is crying. Twice the diapers, twice the bottles or breastfeeding, twice the energy. My brother and I are 3 years apart and we are very close. We still had arguments and fights when we were little, but even at 3 my brother was able to be a little helper to my mother. I think your husband's request is acceptable because he isn't saying lets never have more children, he is just putting a little space in-between. Your body will be supple and ready to have another child with the little break as well. For the record I have a few friends who did have their babies less than 2 years apart. Some enjoyed it. Two husband's walked out. So please consider all of your options and good luck!!

Answer 3

I found out I was pregnant with my second child on my oldest child's second birthday. They are a little over 2 1/2 years apart and it's really tough. I can't imagine them being any closer together. At least we got 1 potty trained before the baby was born so they weren't both in diapers but now that they are 2 and 4 1/2, I am FINALLY starting to be glad that they are so close because I am catching them playing together and talking to each other (they are both girls) and I know that they will be the best of friends someday. Good luck with your decision :-)

Answer 4

I`m not sure but I`ll be finding out soon!!! I have an 11 year old daughter a 6 month old son and I`m 13 weeks pregnant with #3!!! My son`s b-day is July 16 06 and this baby is due August 3 07!! Good luck on whatever you decide!!

Answer 5

With 1 shot you can hit 2 targets. that means within 3-4 years all of the hard work will be over. As apose to starting over 3-4 years on the other child. If you have 2 children, its alittle harder, but soon enough you'l be done with the hardest things.

Answer 6

I think you should enjoy your baby for just a little while I have 3 kids and 1 on the way their ages are 13, 4 and 2 I don't think you should wait as long as I did before having another but I usually like having them potty trained before having another.

Answer 7

I have 2 younger brothers that are about 18 months apart, and my mother breezed through baby/childhood like it was no big deal...until they got in middle school and started competing for the same friends, wanted to play different sports, and hit rebellion at about the same time. That's when my mother really struggled with it.
Getting it all over with may seem like a good idea now, but you'll be facing extra challenges when they get older.

Answer 8

It is more difficult to raise 2 than 1 as you have "double" the work BUT if your husband is willing to help out then each of you can be "responsible" for one child and it won't be that much more difficult. Good luck!

Answer 9

i have a 14 month old son and am pregnant now. our children will be about a year and a half apart. it's going to be hard no matter what you do or how easy the kids are. trying to get them on the same schedule and everything will be tough. but what can you do. it's hard raising kids no matter what age they are.

Answer 10

well i have a 7 yr old and a 2 yr old with another due in 2 wks so far its not to bad but some times it can me a little nerve racking my kids are pretty good until close to bed time then it gets a little hectic cause they dont want to go to bed and i have to wrestel with them both and meal times are kind of messy but id say its worth it. im a little worried about having 3 lol because at first i know i will be tired and sore from giving burth but after im up on my feet good it will be easier. i think you will be fine having another one it might be hard some times but its not bad i enjoy spending time with the kids.