how can i crush my wall?

Question

ive never really been in a real friendship in a while...i avoid people who like me back as a friend. i keep it at the 'hi', 'hello' level. its just that im afraid the friendship will end anyway, and sometimes if i appraoch them, i may not be able to put up a good conversation then they wont like me...please help me change my way of thinking

Answer 1

well you have quite the predicament dont you?
seems like you need to build up your self esteem. obviously if these people want to be your friend theres a reason, they like you, think you are a nice person and fun to be around, otherwise they wouldnt want to be around you lol
just relax, be yourself, they will like you for who you are...and dont worry about the friendship lasting, some friendships work out and some dont, for those who dont, just move on and focus on making new friends
:) hope i have helped

Answer 2

Start a hobby or collection, or get into sports or music. Become passionate about it. Then find others that are interested in the same thing, or start a conversation with that in mind. Your interest will pique their interest, and then you can go from there. That is just one suggestion. Most of all, be your own friend and don't let yourself down. Do things that you love to have done. For instance, if you like to have a clean room, keep it picked up, because you love yourself. If you love to have a nice body, take care of it, just because you love yourself. Others can feel love from a mile away, like pheromones.

Answer 3

Self esteem is relevant..so is self criticism and insecurity...if you want a friend- be one. We all fear being rejected,..it hurts,.. On the other hand, so does not being given a chance to be a friend 'hurt' when you make an effort to be one. You may be hurting some one who wants a friend as badly as you do, [if you apear rude or aloof to them.]
If you are honest, candid, sencear, and openly friendly , people respond that way to you...if you apear cold, critical, sanctimonious, reserved, they respond too that 'you' accordingly.
You get back what you put out there...if you are pretensive, you get to meet the pretense of others. If you are genuine, you attract people who admire 'that' quality about you. Most importantly, be true to you own self,...its a rare quality,..and an admirable one.