I know its wrong so dont bother responding to state the obvious... Please get back to me if you are in a similar situation and what you have done or doing about it...If u did have an affair, how was it?
2007-01-24 13:21:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it was sooooo horrible. i really dont like to think about it but if it keeps someone else from doing the same thing i will tell you. i never feel like myself anymore. it came out and alot of my close friends have betrayed me and dont respect me anymore and i am paying for it everyday.....i am back living with my husband but things will never be the same as they were and he will never trust me or look at me the same as he did. i am very sorry that i did this. i explained a little more in one of the first questions that i asked and i got very negative responses from people you should look at my profile and read it it says. i cheated and i want to make it up to him. it is not something that is worth it. if you want to be with someone else or need a break then tell her dont do it behind her back.
2007-01-24 13:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by ~annie~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've neither cheated nor been cheated on but I know of several people who have cheated on their spouses and there is only one relationship that is still together. However, it is sort of a hollow one as the two really don't communicate and are basically playing house for the kids.
Another who cheated on his wife, ended up being cheated on by the one he'd been cheating with (make sense?)
I think you have to weigh the entire situation...not only your side but you wife's as well. If you cheat on her is it okay for her to do the same? If not then maybe cheating isn't the route to take...instead, ending the relationship is giving both of you the chance to make new lives or be free.
From what I can determine, cheating hasn't worked out very well for any of the ones I know and they've been from all areas of life...from blue collars to corporate execs, it ruins more than a few lives and although it's a thrill in the early stages, it's never what you'd hope it would be because in the end no one wins.
Good luck with your decision, hope you're one of the very few lucky ones where it actually is worth it.
2007-01-24 21:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to criticize you...all I am going to say is "the grass isn't always greener on the other side" It is human nature to be tempted.....and everyone is at one point or another, it doesn't have anything to do with loving your spouse, and in reality it may be fun for a little while....not right, but fun. What you need to think about though is the future...and why you are really wanting to do this. Also, think about this, could you imagine your wife being in a similar situation.....can you picture her in your mind in bed with another man, sneaking around so you wouldn't find out? Or can you imagine what she would do if she found out? It's your life, and people can say go for it or they can ridicule you.....but those are just words......you have to live with your actions.
2007-01-24 21:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by veronica c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is ask yourself why you are feeling this need. Perhaps you need to step back and see what is going on. Trust me we all have these feelings, its whether we act on them or not. What I did, was met and chatted with another online who was in the same boat. We had some good heart to heart talks, and are still good online friends now. Does anyone else but us know, No was it right, is it cheating. It put the spark back in each of ours home life. I call it sharing. Hope this helped.
2007-01-26 16:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by jupiter_4520 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can say not to cheat on there wife, but you are the only one that can tell yourself what you should do ... I would say though if you have kids it can get messy and she might get rights to the kids...Instead of cheating ask her about a 3some.. first 2 girls and you.. then ask her if she comfortable with her and another man ..try to get her into the swinger lifestyle.. that would be a safer bet then having a affair behind her back.
2007-01-24 21:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see. I was engaged to someone and met someone else. stupidly married the person i was engaged to then ended up divorcing because i wanted to be with the person i was having the affair with! Geez if that makes sense to you! But i made the right choice in the end!! So i guess you could say my affair was AWSOME cuz i ended up marrying that person. Its your life do what you have to do, i did and it turned out to be the best thing ever!
2007-01-24 21:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by classyladyonly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a grown up and decide whether or not your want to be in a relationship with your wife. She deserves the truth - you would not want to be cheated on by her, right? If you don't love her anymore, then you need to be honest with yourself and not stay in the relationship. Or put in the effort to make things work. But cheating is not a good idea. Be a man - be upfront - and speak the truth.
2007-01-24 22:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by SmartGrrl27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont cheat on your wife, hon. As soon as you start getting these feelings, you dont need to hang on to the relationship. Youre only hurting her by doing that. I realize divorce isnt an easy thing, but dont allow yourself and your wife to suffer.
2007-01-24 21:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will only cause problems, lies on top of lies,you cant look people in the eyes any more,so many things it screws up,it's not worth it, pretend your spouse is a different person or get a divorce,do something different in bed with your spouse, just don't mess up your life for some strange
2007-01-24 21:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resolve your current problems first. Don't add to the ones already existing inside of your family. I hope you don't have kids.
I know this wasn't the answer you were looking for but I felt you needed to hear this. Good Luck to you.
2007-01-24 21:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋