She's been really loyal over the years and she's everything that I've always wanted in a woman. I just am not attracted to her anymore. I haven't had any affairs or anything and we're really good friends, too. I don't want to hurt her though. I've been trying to find what it that I lost, but to no avail. I want to suggest relationship counseling, but that would entail letting her know that my attraction has dwindled. What should I do?
2007-01-24 13:21:02 · 6 answers · asked by eyeluv2ndulge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
One way or the other you are going to let her know~~~.
I think you owe it to her to suggest relationship counseling.
Be gentle~~~.Did you ever tell her that you loved her ??
It will be hard to find another woman that fits what you describe, that you can trust these days~~~~.
Frankly I would have thought that you would have married a good woman before 6 years or is that perhaps the problem here, she's to easy and doesn't complicate your life.~~~~~
One day it will be so nice to grow old with a good woman and did you know that married men live longer then unmarried men. That is a fact~~~~~~~~~.Did you LOVE her ??~~~
I so very much hope things work out for you two. You will miss her and you will hurt her, and you may live to regret how it all unfolds. Good Luck & God's Blessings I send you~~~~~~Jill
2007-01-24 13:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that your attraction has dwindled, either by suggesting counseling or telling her straight. If you fein attraction for her when it's not there, she will fnd out eventually and it will only hurt both people in the end.
2007-01-24 21:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with her. after 6 years maybe the spark is fading - maybe your just bored - i think counseling may be a good idea but also having a heart to heart, spending time doing things that you used to enjoy, anything except cheating. btw congrats on you both being faithful - you dont get that too much anymore
2007-01-24 21:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is when you go to relationship counseling ... when some problem is arising. It is illogical to NOT go because you don't want her to know you attraction has dwindled. That's crazy thinking.
Go to relationship counseling.
2007-01-24 21:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel so torn up inside about this, I think that you should tell her anyway. I know it may hurt her, but you need to tell the truth and it needs to be cleared up so that you can you feel better. Maybe you should take a break... maybe a long break from your relationship.
2007-01-24 21:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her what's going on. What else are you going to do? Your only other options are to continue to suffer in silence, or just leave her without an explanation. Besides, she is your friend--she deserves the truth.
2007-01-24 21:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by gobanana516 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋