what is it that makes a person use these mobile chat lines..i went to a counsellor 2 years ago with my hubbie cause he said he does not know why he does this..well i have just found loads and loads of bills some of them over 200pounds a month..he still says does not know why he does this..he knows okay..but he keeps quiet and just pulls faces..i am hurting so much..i have loads of animals so i cannot just up and go..he is working and i help with the bills but now feel cheated of my life as we could have had a much better one with the all monies he has spent i have found he has two phones...the last time he did this i helped out with monies but cannot do this anymore as i am oap now..he is 58 is this a middle age thing?? scared of getting old...does anyone have an answer i would like to hear what i am doing wrong in the relationship..by the way he works nights does it turn the brain in some way.....Sandie
2007-01-24 12:46:43 · 9 answers · asked by sandie b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
give him your mobile number so you can be his chat line... and try these belkin internet phone mobiles that are new.
Heres a great tip... act like a teenager...
Go out and have fun and be silly.
Skinny dip, snog in public, go rollerbalding, bungee jumping. tickle.
Grow old disgracefully, go to concerts.
problem is couples growing up act in this bissare properness nmanner where they are not supposed to do all the things they did when young like dance, go clubbing, make out in public, slap each other on the butt when the other bends over, rop ice down backs, kiss in cinemas on the back seat.
Aciidently run out of petrol on a lovers lane etc.
yes hes scared of growing old...
There is no need to act an age unless peoples safety is involved.
Not sure if you entering a jelly wrestle competitoon would be a good idea if an oap whilst he cheers you on and gets to make out and help clean out the winner ie you.
But you get the idea?
Some you can do, other you cant.
Go on holiday somewhere and behave bad.
Make your own porno.
And make it funny with costumes and silly role play like the innocent would be model and bad photographer or cops and robbers (just make sure you use flyy cuffs with safety catches so you can get out if you want and dont trip over at your age.)
Paw each other. spy on each other in the shower.
go swimming, a dn sneak up behind the other and pull down pants or kiss him and give him a stiffy
Try a sky dive, swim with a shark (some aquariums do this), kart racing, wate water rafting.
Embarrass the hell out of your kids or grand kids.
58?
That would make him 20 in 69...
Karoke Rolling stones. Go to a stones Concert etc.
Go to A Gladstonebury festival or woodstock... as the origonal hippies.
Get a tattoo or take him, how about a mohawk...
And you doing similar stuff. like when you were young too.
etc
Thats your problem. To much sensible behavour and suits.
Especailly given you were in late sixties when young... No wonder you are scared
2007-01-24 22:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a horrible situation to be in - i guess your husband does have some reservations about what his obsession is as he has been with you to a counsellor, perhaps you should now go back again as his mobile chat lines are continuing.
Is there any chance that you could get your hubby to ring you on your mobile and you talk dirty to him and then let it lead to the bedroom etc or where ever ? it may sound odd and be something that you do not fancy but its seems that you need to put a bit of spark back in to your marriage.Perhaps a change of lifestyle would be good too like your hubby working days (if possible) so you both can spend nights together romatically and sexually - perhaps you could get a new interest/hobby together - if you wanna save your sanity and your hubby do what ever it takes. I wish you loads of luck
2007-01-24 21:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't use chat lines but I have used dating lines and because of the excitement they are addictive. The man gets an adrenaline rush so it is a real addiction. So although he has been disloyal in this way it is hard to break. If he really wants to do something about it he will see his doctor who may provide an answer. I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-24 20:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Birdman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For a start i would stop paying his bills ur only helping feed his addiction, you need to tell him and he is being very hurtful and selfish, you are at the stage in your life where should be able to relax and enjoy yourself. whats he's doing is ok if he's a single man but he's not, he's just being selfish and if he wont change I'd leave you deserve better and ur still young enough to go out and enjoy urself.
2007-01-24 20:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by louisem28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age you should be taking it easy and be enjoying your golden years...... and not worrying about your foolish husband's debts. Don't stand for anymore of it. I feel so sorry for you as you say it will be difficult for you to leave him. I don't really know what to suggest. Good luck love
2007-01-24 20:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the same obsession that drives sex addicts....this is just another form a sex addiction. Get him help or say good bye...either way, you don't need it in your life.
2007-01-24 21:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
may i suggest; that he phone.s you ;then you can tell him what he want.s to hear.it .s not the answer i know. but it will be a lot cheaper.
2007-01-24 21:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad git
2007-01-24 21:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by njaymc2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce him to some hardcore porn.
2007-01-24 20:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋