hubby likes anal sex..normal or sick ?

Answer 1

If he likes anal sex he is probably completely normal. Granted that isn't much information upon which to base a judgment but enjoying anal sex certainly doesn't qualify anyone as sick. Now if he also puts up Michael Jackson posters in your bedroom and has "beat it" tattooed across his butt cheeks you might have a problem on your hands.

It doesn't really matter if he likes anal with you doing something to him or his doing something to you. There isn't anything wrong with it and he sounds like a normal, healthy, American male, unlike some of the others who have answered your question.

Don't knock it until you've met him half way and thinking that he might be sick isn't a very good start.

Answer 2

I've discovered there's almost no such thing as "normal" when it comes to sex, and when it comes to the very personal sexual decisions between a husband and a wife, there's no standard other than what you are comfortable with (and don't have to sacrifice your self-dignity to accomplish).

If the question is whether your husband is strange for liking anal sex (or if this makes him secretly gay or anything like that) you have nothing to worry about.

Anal sex with women is actually a big fantasy among a lot of straight men, as evidenced by the fact that female porn stars who are willing to do it on-screen actually get paid more because it sells so well (and not every girl will do it) and in countries where prostitution is legal (and anal sex is permitted as an option) the women clean up with men who are willing to pay extra to have sex this way (many are embarrassed to ask their wives or girlfriends). A lot of it is the "taboo" that is anything anal and a lot is simple physics...guys love a tight grip on their penis. They brag about women with "tight" v*ginas, they practically abuse themselves when they masturbate, and anal sex is a totally different feeling from vaginal sex because of the tight grip and different positions required.

It is obviously less popular with women, who are often more conservative sexually, and who are the ones in discomfort during anal sex, NOT the man doing the penetration. So it's usually something that is a special event, or shared between a husband and wife, not a casual booty-call a guy picks up at a club.

If you don't like it for these and a million other reasons, you have a right to say something (and there are ways to make it more comfortable for you if that is an issue), but please don't worry about whether it is normal or not...and it certainly isn't "sick." Just something between you and your husband.

Answer 3

Anal sex (either giving or recieveing) is more normal than most married people think. Because of its 'taboo' and often being related to homosexual sex it isnt widely discussed and often seen as perverted. If your husband is on the recieving end, gently placing pressure on the ending of the nerves in the anal canal can produce a great deal of pleasure. Similary for women it can also be just as pleasurable. If I were you, do some research into the subject and learn more about how it excites men/women and also make sure that you and your husband understand the potential damage that can be caused by not doing it properly.

Answer 4

It is completely normal for a man, straight or not, to like anal sex. There are so many nerves in this area and these nerves endings can create a pleasant experience. The anus or sphincter is simply a muscle and once excercised the act of inserting a foreign object can be very pleasant. In addition, the male has a prostate gland and when pressure is exerted on it, the pleasure may intesify. From what I have read and I have no proof to back this up, prostitutes came up with the term morning glory. This is because when a man is erect in the morning it is usually because his bladder is full. Since the bladder is full there is a decent amount of pressure on the prostate and as a result the prostitutes were able to get their buisness done in a much faster manner. I believe this term arouse during the Vietnam era. Again, no proof though. So, yes it is completely normal for any man to enjoy anal sex once past the uneasyness of it, both physically and mentally. If you are comfortable with this than there should be no issues. If you are questioning his sexuality, that is a different story, and again if you are comfortable with his curiousity and secure in your relationship then it may be something you explore together. If he is gay or something other than you must understand, he is still not "sick" in any manner, he was simply born with a different chemical make up. Something he cannot easily control. So the rest is up to you. Feel very lucky that he is comfortable enough with you to express this and to let you in on his feelings. Most likely he just wants to open some new door and explore with you! Maybe there is something that you have in your closet that you would like to share with him. Just don't use it as a "pay back" if you don't like what he has told you. Also, remember, many man stimulate their prostate in some manner during masturbation but because of the negative connotations that society has irrationaly placed on this act, most of them do not feel comfortable enough to acknowledge it. Your husband felt comfortable enough and secure enough in his manhood to confide in you. Normal yup, sick no.

Answer 5

If you have a problem with providing it (whether it's giving or receiving) that's something you need to discuss with him.
You are not going to find many people in here who are opposed to anal sex. Most of us are pretty open to having an orgasm in any number of ways.
Have you ever experienced anal penetration? Has your husband never put a finger in your a$$ during intercourse? If not you should try it. Note: let go of the idea that you will discuss this or need acceptance from your friends with this. Concentrate on one thing. Does it feel sexy, does it make you hot and maybe even a little bit dirty? Good, it's supposed to. And if you give him a little penetration while he fuc*ing you, you'll get the ride of your life.
They have things called finger condoms or just get some latex gloves, some KY or Astroglide and play around a little bit.
If it turns out you like it come back here and ask where can I get some good sex toys.
I'm sure any one of us could show you some links or google sex toys, dildos, etc. yourself with your husband.
In my opinion sex should always be a little dirty. That's what makes it fun.

Answer 6

Normal

Answer 7

LOL! My husband is a pendulum. He goes from quietly climbing into bed and sleeping the entire day away (not a typical behavior of his) or throwing a temper tantrum wanting it know that he is sick. Every year my husband gets sick and one thing is consistent, he does end up on the couch, asking for the remote! ***Damion D- Calm down--Pretty sure all the ladies love their SO, but since so many men act tough and indestructible, we ladies find it funny that a simple cold can take our husbands down and make them act like babies. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 8

Actually it is not sick, historically speaking, it has been done before Christ was even born. I agree with RiddleMe. Both men and women do engage in anal sex. In fact I have already chatted with straight guys online (fetish chatroom) who enjoy playing with their "a s s" but would not entertain the idea of gay sex. For them they find it pleasurable and would like to do it with a girl. What is strange is that their girlfriends encouraged them to do it.

Sex is sex! There is nothing weird about sex. Bottom line is, you both enjoy it. However if you are uncomfortable with it, talk to your husband and tell him you are not yet prepared for anal sex. Use condoms for hygienic reasons.

Answer 9

I dont think that he is sick. If you do not like the idea, then dont do it. I will tell you, that you are missing out if you have never tried it. Be open to new things. Use lots of lube and have him start with his little finger or a slim toy or something. You may find that you like it and that it is normal. Lots of women enjoy it and it is normal.

Answer 10

i would consider it a strange fetish, but many people do try it.. the men's prostate gland does feel good to be massaged, but an actual hard penis rammed in there? that's a bit much for me..