Do you feel that marriage has lost it's value/importance in today's society?

Answer 1

Mixed feelings about that:

The issue of people being stuck in or free from abusive or constrictive relationship is rightly more valuable/important.

Also, when it was not normal to grow up in a one-parent family, marriage was mean to non-married people. When I was a young child, one of my parents died of cancer, and other kids from married 2 parent families and society in general was not understanding, and even mean, ostracisizing...Society used to make people feel like outcasts if not married or from a 2 parent family. When I was a young child, I was hurting enough already just from my parent dying of cancer, and on top of it, abused and misunderstood by peers and their families. Now that marriage is "less important", I am so glad "marriage" has less power to tyrranize society.

However, its still very unfortunate that people enter and leave marriage frivolously compared to the traditional past. Also, its despicable (as Daffy Duck would say), its despicable that some people use marriage and divorce as a means of robbing their former partner, some men really get burned! and some women too!

I've heard of some places trying out pre-marriage counselling and testing to see if the two love birds are actually compatible in marriage. That MIGHT be something to consider but not be ruled by.

Answer 2

I think its not marriage but people failing to really know each other. Its natural for people to marry people they have been with for a long time but they fail to understand each other. The two biggest things that cause divorce in my opionion are money and values. You can't be in a good marriage if someone is saver and you're a spender. Also you can't be in a good marriage if you have different values. You cant have one person be really religious and the other that is not so religious. It doesn't matter how many things people have in common if these two things dont match then the marriage is probably going to fail. Marriage is still important today its just that people jump into it quicker and at a younger age than before, this means they really dont get to know each other.

Answer 3

How cool is it that your current handle is "Angel of Death"! This is exactly the kind of advice in the form of question sure to boost up your industry. Good marketing! Marriage is a duty of man and each must find his woman and marry and bring about a "next" generation. Being a death lover you would know that. Better for you to leave the earth barren of humanity when all chase after erotic pleasures selfishly, leaving no future -- just billions dead souls bansheeing about the globe in an eternal feral lust that grows and grows each time it is attempted to be satisfied. Pleases you, eh? You betcha! Not me. I''m not the fool you have of yourself. Most of us are not fooled. We've indulged you fools too much already. * * * The above is poetic metaphor. I'm no Christian -- but I am proud to be fundamentalist!

Answer 4

The divorce rate is and never will be 58%. That stat is just as much BS as the whole "98% of high school students have tried marijuana" stat.

And no, I don't think marriage has lost its value, even though stats may show otherwise. Yeah the divorce rate is up a little bit, but that's just because divorce is more easily available now than it was fifty years ago. People haven't changed with the times at all. Love isn't a fading or changing concept. But the times themselves have changed.

Answer 5

Not among Jehovah's Witnesses ...

A Very Special Wedding ...
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1998/6/15/article_01.htm

Why View Marriage as Sacred?
- Love and Respect
- Time and Attention
- Avoid a Casual View
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/5/8a/article_01.htm

Answer 6

Yes, I think it has. My generation seems to think promiscuity is amusing and marriage isn't really necessary until people want to "settle down"

I was recently married, I'm 23, no one seemed too excited for us.

Also, that new statistic showing that something like 51% of women in todays society aren't married and self-sufficient...that shows how even women value marriage less.

Answer 7

Yes, it has. People go into marriage with a "plan B attitude": "If this doesn't work, then we can always get a divorce." Or either they marry for all the wrong reasons. It shouldn't be that way. And people get engaged like they used to date; so freely, breaking it off if the person even looks at them the wrong way. It's not taken seriously anymore by most, and that's sad.

Answer 8

Definitely. People take marriage so casually. We have celebrity influences that go to Vegas, marry and annull their marriages in less than a week. We have people who frequently cheat on their partners, but expect things to change after marriage.

Another problem is that it's so hard to get by financially these days. Over half of all divorces in the U.S. end over money problems. We all want to live better than we can afford, so we spend more money than we have. Then we're stressed and we take it out on our spouses.

Answer 9

That's a hard question to answer. I can speak for myself though. Just celebrated 14 years of marriage, and my hubby is so wonderful. My kids speak of marriage. I think now a days it has alot do with how you are raised. My parents were married, so that's what I saw and what I was taught.

Answer 10

Absolutely, and IMHO that is a good thing. In ancient times there were no marriage certificates or blood tests or $50,000 receptions. You picked your spouse and got married at a village-wide celebration, end of story. Traditional Wiccan handfastings have it right... after a year you part company if it's not working out. Let's not even get into gay marriage... everybody should be able to marry whomever of whatever sex they choose!