I am 4' 11" and Petite. Now I am pregnant (7 months) and still pretty small. My problem is that at work (McDonalds) I get made fin of every single day by the same people about either being short, or something about my pregnancy. This has always happened and it is making me mad more and more everyday. It frustrates me that I can't just go to work and work, and not have to deal with being made fun of. They tell me they are just joking and such and I know it, but I am not laughing anymore or ever actually. It is just getting so old and annoying. If I get mad at yell at them, they will blame it on the hormones which has nothing to do with it. I am tired of being made fun of by everyone. Even my boy friend makes fun of me too at home. Why am I always the one to be made fun of? What can I do to deal with it or stop it. I tried to ignore it, but then it bottles up and I can't deal with it anymore.
2007-01-24 11:10:24 · 11 answers · asked by RearFace@18mo. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have told everyone that I am tired of being made fun of everyday have yelled, and even cried; then they laugh and say it's the hormones. I am getting frustrated about the situation.
2007-01-24 11:18:57 · update #1
Tell everyone that it is seriously bothering you & that you don't need the stress right now while you're pg. Don't be afraid to speak up.
2007-01-24 11:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I understand what it feels like to have your feelings blamed on hormones, because it dismisses the other people's culpability for being insensitive. I understand what it feels like to have someone make a "joke" at my expense, and then blame ME for being overly sensitive. I know this sounds really mean, but you should point out to them whether they might like that you laugh at (YOu insert whatever physical defect they have), and if it would be fair if you pointed it out every single day?
Truth is people think pregnancy is just about "getting a little bigger", but it is mighty uncomfortable. When people mocked me when i was pregnant, I had to muster as much NICE to intelligently explain to them the discomforts of pregnancy. You deserve peace. TAlk to your boss about this if you feel it will help. Tell him the joking makes you feel harrassed, and that is enough to make the others stop, to let you do your job.
2007-01-24 11:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I too am 4' 11" and petite and was always being teased about my height. My husband is 5' 11", we have 4 children and I've learned that people who make fun of someone is a person that is insecure themselves. I always say that God didn't give me much legs but he did give me a big mouth and because I'm tiny, doesn't mean that you can walk all over me. Let them say what they want, once they see that you no longer respond to their jokes, they will turn on someone else.
Tell them that God didn't need as much material to make a PERFECT person.
2007-01-24 11:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, immediately confront the person teasing you. Immediately inform them you do not appreciate the teasing comments about you.
Also inform this person that when it occurs the next time, you shall immediately report this person to the Supervisor, also informing the person that you will start a Sexual Harassment charge against them.
If your Supervisor cannot, or will not, assist you, then immediately ask for the name of your Supervisor's Supervisor.
Don't take no for an answer !!!!!
Don't give anybody "a break." Are they giving you a break?
From reading what you write, you definitely have a solid case for starting Sexual Harassment charges against the people teasing you.
And, you have protection rights guaranteed by law.
Remember, don't take no for an answer !!!
Defend your rights guaranteed by law.
2007-01-24 11:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that its not the hormones anymore, and theyve gone too far. Tell them that you know theyre joking, but you dont think its funny anymore. And also tell them that not every time you get mad or upset is because of the hormones. Who are these morons? If theyve never been pregnant, then how do they know? Even though youve already talked to them about it before, youre going to have to get really serious about it. You need to tell them to stop.
2007-01-24 13:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your about to have a child and working you don't need this. if you feel that its not joking even though they say it is i think its harassment and you should get a lawyer and Sue because you are working and they are pushing, i suggest that you get a type recorder and type what they say then when you go home play it if you feel its more than jokes than your being harassed on the job and in serious need of a lawyer. also this is a serious crime and you should act fast.
2007-01-24 11:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya girl I'm 5'2 and get made fun of alot b/c of my height especially at work. I've gotten used to it and laugh and make jokes with them. I've been called stilts, midget, oompa loompa, ankle biter etc... I just take it with a grain of salt. If they thought it was such a bad thing they wouldn't make fun of you for it. You wouldn't see them making fun of a disabled person.
My new line is " I'm not short, I'm just fun sized! "
2007-01-24 11:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by MSCLEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullies are everywhere esp. when you're perceived as small, weak, or willing to be a sponge to their venom.
Try this: Laugh longer and harder than those who are laughing. Then top their joke about you with a bigger joke about you, for example, "Being short gives me permission to bite your shins - ha-ha", or, "Better watch out for this big stomach, it may knock you over (giggle)."
Once the bullies realize you're not making them feel better about themselves anymore (by making YOU feel worse about YOURself), they'll lose interest in perpetrating this mind game with you.
2007-01-24 11:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For work: Inform the supervisor that you feel like you are being harassed (in which you are), and you would like a brief meeting for him/her to explain to the employees the policy of harassment in the work place!
For boyfriend: Go somewhere nice and cozy, ask him his deepest secret, if he hasn't one then tell him "I really have something to tell you and I am very serious and beginning to become emotionally distraught about it" then tell him how u feel girl!
2007-01-24 11:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by 511@ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either speak to your manager or threaten to go postal due to hormonal changes of being pregnant.
2007-01-24 11:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋