I try to know why I am thinking like that, last thing it is because I respect people alot even if they hurt me, and when I can't protect myself because I am raised to be polite with elders, higher position or strong personalities, if they tried to hurt me I will be polite but later I will sit and cry by myself, How shall I train myself to protect myself from emtional abusers and people who play mind games.
2007-01-24 11:09:48 · 9 answers · asked by Summer O 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can learn to speak assertively with "I" messages. "I feel hurt when you speak to me like that" or "I believe you do not respect me". Honest communication will avoid the reverse mind games. The alternative is to become like they are.
2007-01-24 11:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Spock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already entered you own training.you sound a lot like me .I myself had to learn from my Owen experiences with rude and hard less people. i have learned that the best def fence is to be very cautious and observant.Try to Annalise people before they see you.Politeness is a virtue.It makes you the smarter and stronger one of all.It take a lot of tears to get stronger and with time you will reach the point where you can tell before hand if someone has bad intentions.just stay polite,but refrain from to close of contact.Never reveal you inner feelings.They see it as a weakness when it really is our strength.Once you master this your tears will ease.i can just watch and observe people and tell by their behavior what kind of person they are.Look at the eyes,the smiles.If the smile seems fake they usually are not trustworthy.
2007-01-24 11:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Heike P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let them put you on the defensive . When you feel cornered by a confrontational person , say excuse me, I hear a phone ringing -or say you forgot something ; walk away before you get yourself upset . Some people just do it to give themselves a cheap ego boost . There are better things to do than be the target of such antics .
2007-01-24 11:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-29 00:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know, people can be so cruel, so why not get some professional help to find out what it is that makes you vulnerable to these people? There can be many reasons why we sucuumb to this abuse, and counseling will explore those and get you back on track.
2007-01-24 11:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set boundaries.
Limit time on the phone to five minutes.
Limit talks with them to fifteen minutes.
Say, "I only have five minutes to talk"/I have to use the bathroom/Excuse me, I'll be right back... and don't return.
THey'll be forced to be civil with you due to time constraints and look like jerks even to themselves if they try to deal one quick parting blow.
2007-01-24 11:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a piece of your mind.
2007-01-24 11:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by plehaq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel sorry for them. Be glad youre not them.
2007-01-24 16:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toughen up and do let ppl get to u!
2007-01-24 11:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by shannonlee05@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋