This is serious..not a middle school question?

Question

I'm 18 years old. I'm not trying to brag, but I'm smart. I have all A's, got a 32 on my ACT, and got a full ride to college.

Here's the deal. I've never dated anyone..but I've had my share of crushes, etc.I've just run away from possible relationships in the past.

There is a guy at work that likes me. The only problem is that he's a 17 year old sophomore. He is bipolar (on medication) and he is a foster child. He is different in a lot of ways. He has big plans to go into the Marines. He also is in special education classes.

He has liked me for awhile, and we've talked about the fact that I probably can't go out with him. But, lately, I've become more interested in him. I want to hang out with him. I have even considered going on a date with him.
This is driving me INSANE! Why do I have to be attracted to someone like this?

My question : What would you do if you were me? Would you put aside the differences, or would you break away from the relationship?

Answer 1

First thing, to be blatantly honest with you. I would grow up, and realize that the differences he has is what makes him unique. It makes him who he is. He did not ask for those problems, and honestly they sound pretty mild. If you like him give him a chance. He could be the one you are meant to be with. If not you have opened your heart and let out the selfishness that lies there and given someone else something to be happy about. It sounds like he makes you happy. I can tell you are smart in booksense kind of way, but use common sense for this. Listen to your heart not your head. Just remember everything we do determines our future. Put yourself in his shoes, and see how you would feel about the way you feel now.

That is the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Your knowledge alows you to see what is wrong with him, and what is good about him. It has really helped you in a material way. Wisdom would allow you to see what is inside, and it would allow you to accept it, and learn that he is just like you deep down. He has feelings, he cries, he laughs.... etc. same for you. Make wise decisions and you shall go far, make knowledeable decions and you will go only as far as your knowledge allows. Good luck.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel because I'm a lot like you. I too make all A's and have never dated . It's upsetting a lot of times, and I know how you feel. My problem is I'm attracted to someone with a girlfriend, so I might at well forget it but I just can't

If I were you, I would try to go for it. If you are sure he is interested in you as well, then it's worth a try. I say this because I don't take a lot of chances and later have some regrets. It may not work out, but at least you can look back say you tried, instead of wondering what could have been.

Answer 3

If you really like him, then the age, and grade doen't matter at all. (unless hes like 20 years older than is and is some kind of a pysco stalker) You should put aside your differences and go for it. I can't really answer this question for you though because all that matters is the way that YOU feel, but if you like him then you have to give him a chance. If you don't know exactly the way you feel, then just give it a chance and see what happens.

Answer 4

Then go out with him. I would stop running from relationships. You will regret it if you don't years to come. His education shouldn't have anything to do with the fact if you like him or not. Sounds like your smart enough for both of you..

Answer 5

The best relationships with guys start out as good friends. Become good friends with him first. No need to rush

Answer 6

honestly i would try it out. I mean the kid is bipolor probably because hes had no one really there to teach him how to act and he is upset and hurt from his past without his parents. sounds like he needs someone just like you do. u two may b able to complete each other.. if it doesnt work out just b his friend, sounds like a good kid to me.

Answer 7

they have all been relaxing, with in general good issues and purely some undesirable issues approximately each physique. yet i think of i might nevertheless say common and midsection college have been extra advantageous, in basic terms because of the fact they have been extra rigidity-loose. severe college has been relaxing, yet there is in basic terms a touch extra rigidity in touch because of the fact your grades start to truly matter quantity and you rather ought to ensure you do properly on your training. you ought to commence thinking approximately your destiny and school and whatnot, and that's overwhelming. common and midsection college have been a touch extra carefree. i can't %. between common and midsection nevertheless, because of the fact they have been the two plenty relaxing for me! i assume i might desire to declare common because of the fact it grow to be the least complicated and that i had the smallest volume of homework, haha. and because notably plenty everybody grow to be buddies and there have been no longer a gaggle of cliques and stuff. you will possibly be able to desire to purely pass as much as everybody at recess and play, and the does no longer choose you. even nevertheless that style of stuff gets notably hassle-loose in midsection college (cliques, human beings being judgmental, etc.), I controlled to flee that considering I in basic terms stayed with my buddies and did no longer attempt to charm to close around the "extensive-unfold" crowd. i've got heard that a lot of human beings had a terrible time in midsection college, yet i myself had lots of relaxing. I in basic terms had extremely incredible buddies, and that i enjoyed maximum of my instructors in midsection college too, so as that grow to be additionally what made it good. i've got had lots of large college years, and that i can't probable %. one, so i'm going to purely %. one from each and each college. 4th grade grow to be my maximum suitable 300 and sixty 5 days of common college, seventh grade grow to be by way of a procedures the main suitable midsection college 300 and sixty 5 days, and so a procedures, i think of my senior 300 and sixty 5 days has been my maximum suitable severe college 300 and sixty 5 days (i'm a senior staggering now). Junior 300 and sixty 5 days grow to be notably good too nevertheless.

Answer 8

I'd definitely put aside your differences if you like him that much. If it doesn't work out due to the issues concerning his condition[s] then it doesn't work out at least you tried.

Answer 9

Your question disturbs me. What do you mean "someone like this"?? Like what??! The fact that he is bipolar or he is different in same ways.

You should base your decision on whether you like him and NOT whether he is bipolar!

Answer 10

i would hang out with him for awhile before letting it get to a romantic phase. and dont let him know u are attracted to him. just hang out as friends to get to know him better, you may find you have nothing to worry about. or he may be an unstable slacker. if you dont let your attraction blind you to his faults, you will be able to make a better decision on whether to proceed to a relationship, or not.