for all the gay guys.. when did you realize you were gay? do you think you were born gay? whats ya story?

Question

i wanna know;]

Answer 1

I guess I have to give you credit for coming to the right place to ask the question, but just so you (and other well-meaning straight people) know, these questions do get tiresome.

I knew at puberty, when you people knew who you were attracted to. Took a little bit longer to realize what that meant (societal pressure and the denial that comes with it will do that to you) but I've only ever been physically attracted to men.

Answer 2

hmm, i feel like taking time to explain myself, hey why not? personally i dont know exactly when the change started because as far back as i can remember i was different from the other boys, more relative to girls as well, as far as my first gay experience, which is what i call my first kiss with another member of my same sex, well that was when i was 13, i didnt even know what i was doing, just that i wanted to do it, something about the guys attracted me in a way a woman could not or can never attract me. But as far as being born gay, i dont think so, i rather like to think and i believe that us as humans are born nor gay nor st8, it depends how we go upon our time before and during puberty that somehow makes the body chose for itself without the conscent of the actual person, its how we are raised and our experiences that determine sexual orientation, gay or str8, at least thats the way i have always thought. And for my story, cant tell it all to ya yet because it is still writng itself...

Answer 3

Well, in primary school I was a bit different from other boys.
At 14 I knew, that sg. is wrong with me.
At 16 i knew, that I'm gay, but I wasn't mature enough to accept it.
Now I'm 18, and I like to be gay and I cannot imagine a different life for myself. I do not want to be NOT gay. Not even a little bit.
I think was born to be gay. But it is not proved whether this thing is genetically coded or not.

Answer 4

Like JoseAngel, I was always "different from the other boys" (cliche, no?). I played with Barbie, like, since I was born and up until I was about 3 I alternated between running around in a hot pink tutu and running around naked wearing high heels.

I didn't even know what "gay" was until I was about 13 because my family didn't talk about that. So, I never questioned anything and never thought "I'm gay" because I didn't know what that meant!!!

When I was about... hmmm... 12, I played "gay chicken" with this guy (even though we didn't know what it was called; we just started doing it) and... well, yeah. [For the protection of the innocent, the exact details of the incident are not included].

Then I went to high school and met a girl from my old school and completely corrupted me for which I am eternally thankful!!! Then I started to think more and more about guy and finally I fell in love with Nick (I was... 13? 14? Shmeh, doesn't really matter) and realised "Hey!! I like MEN!!" and... yeah.

I never really battled with it. It's not like I tried to make myself straight or anything. I just take life as it comes.

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Answer 5

When I was little, 18 odd years ago, my dad knew I would be gay. However I didn't know until much later, I was never straight, but have been gay since... I suppose you could say, I became emotionally developed.
In a way, I was born gay... kind of...
Hope that's not too vague

Answer 6

I knew my whole life since maybe 8 on.

I knew I was not like other boys and those messages come at a very early age without truly being sexual.

I knew my interests in play and desires were not the same as the other boys and as I grew I knew (even at 8) that I didn't look at girls the same as other boys. I also learned that I looked at boys more like girls looked at boy. That is honestly how I knew something was up!

Yes I was born gay even my parents, aunts and uncles all have said they always knew I was gay!

Proof..........My father said he always knew it ever since I started getting around as a young child say 3 or so but he said he always knew and so did everyone else.

Answer 7

I started thinking I was gay when I was 12. I had always liked guys more than girls, and when puberty started I started to REALLY like guys in a new way. I had been taught that being gay was wrong, so I did everything I could to not be gay. In college, a good friends parents moved to another state and he also moved to get in-state tuition. After he moved, he came out as gay. This friend was the guy that all the girls wanted to date and all the guys wanted to be friends with, and he was a really nice guy. This made me begin to realize that all the people who said gay people were bad and wrong didn't even know any gay people themselves, and I now knew a gay guy who was nothing like gay people were stereotyped to be. My friends coming out led to myself coming out, and when I told my Mom she said she had thought so since I was 4 because I had said I liked the guys doing underwear modeling in a newspaper ad (being 4, I have no memory of this). My Mom said they tried to raise me to be straight, and my Dad said that although he would rather that I be straight that he valued me being honest instead of lying about who I was attracted to.

Since I started being sexually attracted to other guys when I was 12, made the choice to be straight, finally learned that it is something that cannot be chosen, and that you can only choose to be honest about your attractions or hide them and deny them to yourself; I was born gay.

Answer 8

When i was 13

Answer 9

Started noticing guys biceps in the hallways at school in 9th grade. Then a guy library aid seduced me on the way home from school.... It was pretty hot, until my religious brainwashing started to screw with my mind... After going through a loop of "sinning", rebuking, repenting, for 5 years, I then started to accept myself. Once I did that, I looked back on my life, and realize that I was gay all along! The little things like playing with my sister's barbies, and dressing in drag!

Answer 10

At 11 or 12. Yes. No story. Acceptance is the key.